Thursday, December 27, 2018

Would You Eat Bacon for $10 million?

Question of the Week:
 
I was watching a debate between the famous atheist Richard Dawkins and some rabbi about religion and G-d. Dawkins said that religions are just money machines, and its leaders fleece their gullible followers of their cash and come out rich. What do you have to say about that?
 
Answer:
 
So Dawkins is saying that for believers, money trumps morality. I assume he holds that atheists are different. Let's test that hypothesis. What happens when people need to choose between money and principles? Let's try the following theoretical experiment.
 
Imagine you put Richard Dawkins in a sealed room all alone, with no one watching, no recording devices or CCTV's, and you offer him a deal: "I will give you ten million dollars if you will make the following statement right here and now: G-d most certainly does exist, He created the universe, and atheism is a delusion. I will never tell anyone that you said it. There will be no record of this one off event. Just make the statement, get the cash, and it will all be forgotten."
 
Does anyone have any doubt that Richard Dawkins would go for it and take the money? Can you think of any reason in the world for him to refuse that offer? Would he even hesitate to accept it? I think clearly not.
 
Now imagine you put the rabbi he debated in that same sealed room, all alone, and made this offer: "Rabbi, you will receive ten million dollars cash, tax free, no strings attached, but on one condition - you eat this piece of bacon. No one will ever find out, it will not go beyond this room, it will be forgotten forever. Just eat and take the prize."
 
What would the rabbi do? Would he too sell his principles for ten million dollars? After all, it's just a one-off, and no one will ever know.
 
Let's be honest. Rabbis are humans too, and some rabbis may find the temptation too hard to resist. But I would say that the overwhelming majority of rabbis would refuse this offer and walk away. And not just rabbis, but many observant Jews, including those who could desperately use the money, would be able to withstand the test and not eat the bacon. 
 
I am not suggesting that religious people do no wrong. I am saying that a religious person has reason to stand for their principles even when they can get away with it, and reason to regret it when they fail. It makes no difference that no one will find out or no one is looking. G-d is always looking. An atheist doesn't have that restriction. I don't believe that even one single atheist in their right mind would refuse to abrogate their atheism when there is something to gain and no one will find out.
 
Money is indeed a powerful corrupter. But in a choice between money and G-d, at least G-d has a chance. Between money and atheism, there is no contest.
 
Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

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Shabbos Day, 29 December 2018 | 21 Teves 5779
In depth parsha class ...................... 9:00am
Shabbos Service............................ 10:00am-12:20pm
Kids Program ............................... 10:30am
Kiddush in honour of the Aufruf and wedding of Daniel Lazarus and Megan Kessler - Mazal Tov!
 
Mincha followed by Seudah Shlishis ............7:50pm
Gematria and Story by Rev Amzalak........... 8:10pm
Shiur with Rabbi Moss............................... 8:30pm
Shabbos ends.......................................... 8:50pm
Followed by Havdalah
 
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Condolences to Steven, Harry and David Fester and families on the passing of their mother Goldie.
 
Mazal tov to the Lazarus and Kessler families on Daniel Lazarus' Aufruf this Shabbos and his upcoming marriage to Megan Kessler on Sunday!
 
Mazal Tov to the Kahn and Valoschin families on Joel and Vicky's wedding this Sunday!
 
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
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Cade Lessem......... 25 Tevet / Wednesday 2 January
 
LONG LIFE
Harold Judelman for his late sister Elaine Tudin,
Ella bat Yisroel... 21 Tevet/ Saturday 29 December
Adele Glick for her late father Mendel Rieback... 24 Tevet/ Tuesday 1 January
Carol Melman for her late father Arnold Shapiro
Aron Ben Yitzchak... 25 Tevet/ Wednesday 2 January
Judy Traub for her late husband David Traub
David ben Yaacov... 26 Tevet/ Thursday 3 January
Libby Moss and Peter Irving for their late mother Joan Cohen
Chana Bas Yesse... 27 Teves/ Friday 4 January
Jack Klein for his late mother Grace Helen Klein... 27 Tevet/ Friday 4 January
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Thursday, December 20, 2018

What If We Never Argue?

Question of the Week:
 
I have a problem. My fiancée and I never fight. I have heard that relationships can only grow through tension, that only when we have a disagreement and then work through it can we get closer. But what can I do? We simply agree on everything. Now I'm nervous. Should we be arranging some arguments? Maybe a weekly roster with a list of topics to fight about, and then make up afterwards?

Answer:
 
Pre-arranged fights only work if you are a professional wrestler. Not so in a marriage. To get the desired effect, the argument needs to be real. I am afraid you will have to wait for an authentic argument to be able to truly reconcile.

This is based on some Talmudic logic. The Talmud teaches that one who has sinned but then asks for forgiveness comes closer to G-d than someone who never sinned. This means that a person who was wicked but left their evil ways reaches higher than a person who has always done the right thing.

If so, the Talmud asks, should a righteous person intentionally sin, in order to have the opportunity to change his ways? After all, he can't reach the level of a reformed sinner if he never sins.

The answer is no, he shouldn't sin. One reason is, he might enjoy it and never repent. But more than that, if he sins just to repent, his repentance will not be sincere because his sin was not sincere. If you sin just to get closer to G-d, you never rebelled properly. And if you didn't rebel, you can't truly regret. If you didn't actually go off the path you can't get back on.

The same applies in our relationships with our fellow humans. Just like you can't plan to sin in order to repent, you can't plan an argument in order to make up. It isn't sincere. Just as making up has to be genuine, arguing has to be genuine too. If the rift is not real, the resolution that comes later won't be either. You have to feel that moment of despair, when you think things have fallen apart and all is lost. From that moment of darkness comes a glimmer of hope, and you rebuild.

It is wonderful that you and your fiancée see eye to eye. But don't worry, times of tension will come. Two individuals sharing intimate space is recipe enough for some friction to eventually develop. And when it does, embrace it as an opportunity to learn something about your partner. If she never upsets you, she can't know who you are. If you don't know what her boundaries are, you don't know her. And you can only know those boundaries by accidently crossing them.

Every sin is a chance to uncover a more profound level of connection with G-d, and every argument is an opportunity to dig deeper in your relationship with your partner. To argue is human. To make peace is divine.
 
Good Shabbos, 
Rabbi Moss

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Friday, 21 December 2018 | 13 Teves 5779
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Mincha........................ 6:15pm
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Shabbos Day, 22 December 2018 | 14 Teves 5779
In depth parsha class ..................... 9:00am
Shabbos Service............................ 10:00am-12:20pm
Kids Program ............................... 10:30am
Followed by Kiddush
 
Mincha followed by Seudah Shlishis ..........7:50pm
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Thursday, December 13, 2018

A Jew is a Jew

A JEW IS A JEW

There has been heated discussion in the Sydney community about the long-standing policy of Moriah College to only admit halachically Jewish students. 
 
This is a sensitive and delicate issue that elicits strong emotions. In the cloudiness of those emotions, some of the facts are being overlooked. It is not about inclusion, it's about who is a Jew. So we thought to clarify the issues:
 
Do the Orthodox accept Reform Jews as Jews?
A Jew is a Jew. Whether Orthodox, Reform or no affiliation, anyone born of a Jewish mother or converted according to Halacha is Jewish. We embrace every Jew as our brother or sister, no matter what.
 
So what is the controversy about?
As an Orthodox school, Moriah College's constitution stipulates a policy of only accepting halachic Jews. This does not include someone who has converted outside of Orthodoxy, or the children of a mother who converted outside of Orthodoxy. This policy is understandably hurtful to those who do not comply with this definition. 
 
Isn't Moriah being divisive by not accepting students who are not halachically Jewish?
There is nothing controversial about an Orthodox school upholding a policy which maintains the millennia old definition of a Jew. Any religious school should be allowed to define its own fundamental principles and who its clientele is. 
 
Shouldn't these things move with the times?
The Torah is eternal and unchanging. It has an inbuilt system that deals with new situations and modern innovations, but the very definition of Jewish identity is not subject to change. 
 
Shouldn't we be tolerant of other views?
Yes, and tolerance goes both ways. The Orthodox community attempts to uphold the Torah and its eternal values. No one is forcing anyone else to accept those values, but no one should be forced to forsake them. 
 
What do you say to a family who believes they are Jewish but are being rejected?
It must be very painful, and we are sorry for any hurt. But you are not being rejected. There is a path for anyone who was not born Jewish to embrace Judaism - halachic conversion. We will support anyone who sincerely wishes to pursue that path. 
 
Not everyone is Jewish. Anyone can become a Jew. But you have to follow the process that Judaism has defined. We don't ensure Jewish continuity by changing what it means to be Jewish - that is not continuity. We ensure the Jewish future by teaching our kids what it means to be Jewish.

We commend Moriah College for staying true to this message.

Signed by Rabbis:
Yanky Berger (Chabad Double Bay)
Davey Blackman (JLC)
Motti Feldman (Dover Heights Shul)
Michoel Gourarie (BINA)
Chaim Koncepolski (Cremorne)
Paul Lewin (North Shore Synagogue)
Aron Moss (Nefesh)
Dovy Rapoport (Kehillat Kadimah)
Levi Wolff (Central Synagogue)



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Friday, 14 December 2018 | 6 Teves 5779
Candle Lighting............ 7:43pm (Not before 6:35pm)
Mincha........................ 6:15pm
Shabbos Service........... 7:00-7:50pm
Kids Program................ 7:00pm
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Shabbos Day, 15 December 2018 | 7 Teves 5779
In depth parsha class ...................... 9:00am
Shabbos Service............................ 10:00am-12:20pm
Kids Program ............................... 10:30am
Followed by Kiddush
 
Mincha followed by Seudah Shlishis .............7:45pm
Gematria and Story by Rev Amzalak............ 8:05pm
Shiur with Rabbi Moss................................ 8:25pm
Shabbos ends........................................... 8:46pm
Followed by Havdalah
 
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY
Willow Glick................. 9 Tevet/ Monday 17 December
 
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Gavin & Beatrish Gordon........ 9 Tevet/ Monday 17 December
Gilda & Jonathan Shapira...... 12 Tevet/ Thursday 20 December
Sarah & Benjy Reid.............. 12 Tevet/ Thursday 20 December
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