Why Are My Feelings For Her Blocked?

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Question of the Week: The Secret of Reincarnation   I need some urgent dating advice. I have become very close with a girl who really seems to have everything I'm looking for in a wife. We get on well, we want the same thing out of life, and all the boxes are ticked. This is the first girl I have met that I can really imagine being married to. The problem is my feelings. They seem to be blocked. I definitely like her very much, but that overwhelming, deep and intense feeling of love just hasn't come. I know what it is because I have had it before. I don't want to give up this relationship, so what can I do to kick-start my heart? Answer: Love can only blossom in an open heart. When our heart is closed we cannot feel affection, even when that affection really is there. And what closes a heart is fear. You're scared. You're scared of your dream coming true. You have finally met a girl who could really end up being your wife. This is what you have prayed for, waited for, and hoped for, for so long. And now that it is in front of you, you're gripped with fear. It's scary to say goodbye to single life. It's scary to accept that you will marry a real person with flaws and foibles, not an imaginary perfect dream person. It's scary to realise that now you're growing up, and about to start the next stage in your life, with all the joys and challenges that will bring. This is why your heart is blocked. Fear and love cannot both be felt at any one time. They are opposites. Fear is the urge to stand back, while love is the yearning to become closer. So ironically, when you meet a serious candidate for marriage, your heart is paralyzed by the fear that this might actually work out. Your blocked feelings might be a good sign. The fear could indicate that this is a relationship worth pursuing. If you want to give it a chance, you first need to calm your fears. Take a long walk, all alone, and observe what's going on inside you. Admit that you are scared. Acknowledge that it has nothing to do with her, and everything to do with you. Get comfortable with the idea that you may have found your match. Be grateful to G-d who has sent you such a wonderful girl. Believe in yourself that you are ready to take the plunge and become a married man. Let these ideas slowly sink in, face the reality and make peace with it. Once you quieten your fears, your heart will be open to love. Then, if she is indeed the one, it won't take long for the warm feelings to come flooding in. If you want to find love, you have to lose fear. Good Shabbos, Yitzchok Digs Wells excavating hidden meanings Rabbi Moss Sources: Sifri 6:5 "You can't have love in the same place as fear, or fear in the same place as love, except in Divine emotions." We can love and fear G-d at once, because those emotions come from the divine powers of our soul. Just as G-d can handle paradox, so can our Divine Soul. But our normal human emotions when applied to human relationships can't handle opposites. At any one time we can only experience either love or fear, not both.  To subscribe CLICK HERE or email rabbimoss@nefesh.com.au           BOOKINGS NOW OPEN FOR 2019 COURSE   ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ALL SERVICES AT NEFESH    1 FRANCIS ST BONDI BEACH   (OFF CAMPBELL PDE, BEHIND NOAH'S BACKPACKERS)   SHABBOS TIMES & COMMUNITY INFO: TOLDOS ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Friday, 9 November 2018 | 1 Kislev 5779 Candle Lighting............ 7:12pm (Not before 6:08pm) Mincha.........................6:15pm Shabbos Service........... 6:30-7:20pm Followed by Kiddush   Shabbos Day, 10 November 2018 | 2 Kislev 5779 In depth parsha class ...................... 9:00am Shabbos Service............................ 10:00am-12:20pm Kids Program ............................... 10:30am Kiddush in honour of Yaron Morris' 3rd birthday and Upsherin on 2 Kislev- Mazel Tov, and also in honour of the yortzheit of Aviva's mother, Vidya Wati on 27 Cheshvan- Long Life.   Mincha followed by Seudah Shlishis .............7:10pm Gematria and Story by Rev Amzalak............ 7:30pm Shiur with Rabbi Moss................................ 7:50pm Shabbos ends........................................... 8:12pm Followed by Havdalah   WEEKDAY SERVICES Sunday..................................................... 8:00am Mon- Fri.................................................... 7:00am Latest Shema this week............................... 9:11am   MAZEL TOV Rob & Romy Sperling on the birth of a boy   Paul Khodor & Yehudit Ungar and their entire extended families on Paul's Aufruf this Shabbos afternoon and their upcoming wedding   HAPPY BIRTHDAY Batya Moss.............. 2/3 Kislev/ Sunday 10 and Monday 11 November Yaron Eitan Morris............................. 2 Kislev/ Sunday 10 November Summer Lily Chaya Mushka Hasofer..... 8 Kislev/ Friday 16 November Sarah Meguideche.............................. 8 Kislev/ Friday 16 November   HAPPY ANNIVERSARY Emma & David Stiles.......................... 8 Kislev/ Friday 16 November Michael & Sophie Stern....................... 8 Kislev/ Friday 16 November   LONG LIFE Isaak Krutik for his late mother Lyubov Levitanus Lyubov bat Yisrael.............................. 6 Kislev/ Wednesday 14 November   Brian Schwartz for his late father Kurt Schwartz Aharon ben Avraham............................ 7 Kislev/ Thursday 15 November

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The Danger We Face After Pittsburgh

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TONIGHT: Prayers for the victims of the Pittsburgh Shooting 6pm TOMORROW: Kiddush in appreciation of our security protectors from CSG Question of the Week:   Video: Rivka and the Camel We have all been deeply affected by the shooting in Pittsburgh. I think the fact that it happened in a shul makes it much closer to home. It makes me wonder if it is safe to take my family to shul this Shabbos. I know rationally that this week is no different to any other. But at the same time, I don't want my kids to feel they are in danger. We don't go every week anyway, so maybe this week we should give it a miss? Answer: There is a great danger this Shabbos, more than usual. The danger is that Jews become intimidated into hiding away. In the wake of such a tragedy, avoiding shul is far riskier than attending. You risk giving your kids the wrong message. I will never forget something that happened when I was living in Jerusalem during the 2001 intifada. One Thursday afternoon, the busy Sbarro pizza shop, just across the road from where I lived, became the target of a Palestinian suicide bomber. He stood amongst the crowds innocently eating their lunch, and exploded himself, killing 15 people, including 7 children and a pregnant woman, and injuring 130. It was an unspeakable tragedy that shook the Jewish world. It hit me hard too. My wife and I lived so close and had frequented that very pizza shop. But what stuck with me was what happened in the aftermath of the attack. Within a few weeks, the pizza store was open for business again. Construction crews worked around the clock to clean up the wreckage and rebuild it like new, as if nothing had happened. A bustling eatery had turned into the scene of mass murder, and then back into a bustling eatery, all in the space of a month. Only one thing had changed. A plaque was placed on the wall that read: In memoriam of the darkness that befell us on August 9, 2001. Sbarro Family, City of Jerusalem, and the whole House of Israel. All the employees came back to work that day, except for one who was killed and two who were still recovering from injury. They resumed serving lunch to their customers, including some who had been there on that dark day only weeks before. The message was powerful: We will not forget the dead, but we will not stop living. This is the Jewish response to terror. We don't cower in the face of intimidation. We don't allow our enemies to define who we are and what we do. We don't adjust our lives to suit the evil schemes of those who hate us. We are here, and we are here to stay. It was amazingly poignant that the day Sbarro pizzeria reopened was September 12, 2001, a day after the 9/11 attacks on America. Israel was teaching America and the world the answer to tragedy: we mourn for those who were lost, we pray for those who were hurt, we bring the perpetrators to justice, and we don't change who we are because someone doesn't like us. You now have the opportunity to teach this truth to your children. Make a point to take them to shul, especially this Shabbos. Walk proudly as Jews. And explain to them that we don't let evil win. We cry for the victims. And we honour them by doing what they wished to do - live as proud Jews. Good Shabbos, Rabbi Moss To subscribe CLICK HERE or email rabbimoss@nefesh.com.au           A riddle for you all this week; If you were a grain of concrete would you rather be the grain that gets set into a slab to stay in one place for the foreseeable future or would you like to be the grain that gets set free i.e. the grain washed off the tool, set out into the world again...? Shabbat Shalom! Brent  BOOKINGS NOW OPEN FOR 2019 COURSE   ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ALL SERVICES AT NEFESH    1 FRANCIS ST BONDI BEACH   (OFF CAMPBELL PDE, BEHIND NOAH'S BACKPACKERS)   SHABBOS TIMES & COMMUNITY INFO: CHAYEI SORAH ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Friday, 2 November 2018 | 25 Cheshvan 5779 Candle Lighting............ 7:06pm (Not before 6:03pm)   Prayers for the Pittsburgh Shooting Victims  6pm  Mincha........................ 6:15pm Shabbos Service........... 6:30-7:20pm Kids Program............... 6:30pm Followed by Kiddush   Shabbos Day, 3 November 2018 | 26 Cheshvan 5779 In depth parsha class ..... 9:00am Shabbos Service............ 10:00am-12:20pm Kids Program ................10:30am Kiddush sponsored by the Nefesh community in appreciation of our CSG team of security protectors for all that they do.     Mincha followed by Seudah Shlishis .............7:05pm Gematria and Story by Rev Amzalak............ 7:25pm Shiur with Rabbi Moss................................ 7:45pm Shabbos ends........................................... 8:04pm Followed by Havdalah Shabbos ends........................................... 7:57pm   WEEKDAY SERVICES Sunday...........................8:00am Mon- Fri......................... 7:00am Latest Shema this week... 9:14am New Moon/ Molad Thursday 8 November 9:45:12am Rosh Chodesh Kislev Thursday - Friday 8-9 November CONDOLENCES To Jack, Noga, Alon, Omer and Michal on the passing of Dita Farhy.    HAPPY BIRTHDAY Arlene Schwartz... 30 Cheshvan/ Thursday 8 November   HAPPY ANNIVERSARY Jess & Joji Kurosaki............... 26 Cheshvan/ Sunday 4 November Peter & Richelle Goldshaft...... 28 Cheshvan/ Tuesday 6 November   LONG LIFE Aviva Morris for her late mother, Vidya Wati.............. 27 Cheshvan/ Monday 5 November   Anne Sarzin for her late aunt Elise Kaplan Elisheva bat Harav Avraham Halevi.............................. 27 Cheshvan/ Monday 5 November   Anne Sarzin for her late uncle Dr Isidore Kaplan......... 27 Cheshvan/ Monday 5 November   Eva Schlesinger for her late mother Ilona Gold Aidel bat Shlomo Hacohen.......................................... 28 Cheshvan/ Tuesday 6 November   Anne Sarzin for her late sister Fanny Faye Feige bay Aaron halevi................................................ 28 Cheshvan/ Tuesday 6 November   Gilda Cohen-Shapira for her late father Maurice Jacob Cohen Moshe Ya'cov ben Haim Dovid HaCohen.................... 30 Cheshvan/ Thursday 8 November

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