Why Don't My Kids Respect Me?

Question of the Week: Can you explain my children to me? I have dedicated my life to looking after their every need. But if I ask one of them to get me a glass of water they moan and groan. Why is it that one parent can care for thre children but three children can't seem to care for one parent? Answer: We are all descendants of Adam and Eve, the first human beings. We have inherited from them the basic ingredients of human nature. They didn't have parents. They were created, not born. They had no umbilical cords. They probably didn't even have belly buttons. So any normal human being has an innate desire to look after their children. But looking after our parents (and our belly buttons) is a skill that doesn't always come naturally. The genes we pass on to our children are not enough. We must pass on to them a moral code too. If they are raised to think of themselves as mere intelligent animals, then they will follow their instincts, which program them to care for themselves and their young, not their parents.   But if we teach our children that they are moral beings that can go beyond their genetic programming, then we raise them to know that life is about doing what is right rather than what feels right, what is good rather than what feels good. We are not just apes with intelligence, but ethical beings with a belly button. Good Shabbos, Rabbi Moss To subscribe CLICK HERE or email rabbimoss@nefesh.com.au      ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ALL SERVICES AT NEFESH    1 FRANCIS ST BONDI BEACH   (OFF CAMPBELL PDE, BEHIND NOAH'S BACKPACKERS)   SHABBOS TIMES & COMMUNITY INFO: SHABBOS BERESHIS ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Friday, 5 October 2018 | 26 Tishrei 5779 Candle Lighting.................................... 5:42pm Mincha................................................ 5:50pm Shabbos Service................................... 6:00-6:50pm Kids Program....................................... 6:00pm Followed by Kiddush sponsored by the Tartour family in honour of Arnaud's recent Bar Mitzvah anniversary- Mazal Tov!   Shabbos Day, 6 October 2018 | 27 Tishrei 5779 In depth parsha class ..................... 9:00am Shabbos Service............................ 10:00am-12:20pm Kids Program ............................... 10:30am Followed by Kiddush Mincha followed by Seudah Shlishis ................ 5:40pm Gematria and Story by Rev Amzalak..... 6:00pm Shiur with Rabbi Moss......................... 6:20pm Shabbos ends.................................... 6:39pm Followed by Havdalah   WEEKDAY SERVICES Sunday.............................. 8:00am Mon- Fri............................. 7:00am Latest Shema this week....... 8:33am New Moon/ Molad............... Tuesday 9 October 9:01:11pm Rosh Chodesh Cheshvan...... Tues - Wednesday 9-10 Oct   HAPPY BIRTHDAY Levi Weisz................... 28 Tishrei/ Sunday 7 October Yehezkel-Yoel Ezekiel.... 28 Tishrei/ Sunday 7 October Asher Waine................ 29 Tishrei/ Monday 8 October Tom Cromer.................. 2 Cheshvan/ Thursday 11 October Monique Klein................ 3 Cheshvan/ Friday 12 October   HAPPY ANNIVERSARY Karen & Roger Berman... 28 Tishrei/ Sunday 7 October   LONG LIFE Peppi Glick for his late father Ruby Glick... 2 Cheshvan/ Thursday 11 October Les Pozniak for his late step-mother Joan Pozniak Chai Bat Leah... 2 Cheshvan/ Thursday 11 October Roy, Steven and Kim Eckowitz for their late mother Alma Eckowitz Chana bat Kalman... 2 Cheshvan/ Thursday 11 October

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Are You a Good Husband or an Amazing One?

Simchas Torah at Francis St

LAST SPONSORSHIPS AVAILABLE FOR SIMCHAS TORAH:                                                                                             Kids Lolly Bags $60                                Shmini Atzeres Kiddush $120                                               Bottle of Lechaim $80        Simchas Torah Night Huge Kiddush 10 x $180     CHOSSON TORAH $1800       MAZEL TOV TO OUR CHASSANIM: Brent Maksimovich - Chosson Bereishis Michael Singer - Chosson Kol Hanearim Avi Rosencweig - Chosson Maftir  Question of the Week: My very devout wife says I shouldn't miss Simchas Torah, as it is the most important festival of the year. I countered that the Torah speaks of no such festival, so how could it be so important? She said I should ask the rabbi. So I am. Answer: There are two types of good husbands. I'm not sure which one you are. One is the type of husband that does whatever his wife asks. If she says, "Can you pick up some eggplants?" he says "Sure." If she asks for a new watch, he buys it. If she says "This house needs painting" he calls a painter. If she complains that the air-conditioning is on too strong, he turns it off. He is a good husband. But he is not an amazing husband. An amazing husband doesn't only do what his wife asks. He does things for her without her asking. He knows what makes her happy, and just goes ahead and does it. She still has to express her needs, because even an amazing husband can't read her mind. But he can intuit what she likes, and do it without being asked. The Jewish people are in a marriage-like relationship with G-d. We don't just do what we are asked, but go beyond to do things we know would make G-d happy. In Judaism there are straight out rules that G-d has asked us to keep, like eating kosher and giving charity. They are called commandments, what G-d needs from us, and we do them as any loyal partner would. And then there are customs, like wearing a kippah and dipping apples in honey. We were not commanded to do these things, but we ourselves intuited that G-d would like it, so we do it. Among the festivals, there are those that we were commanded to keep, like Yom Kippur, and then there are those that we developed on our own, like Simchas Torah. Nothing we do on Simchas Torah is commanded in the Torah. The dancing, the Torah readings, the somersaults and the songs are all an expression of our love for G-d, doing what we know would make Him happy. And nothing makes Him happier than seeing us all dancing together in joy, celebrating the gift of the Torah, the gift of being Jewish. Doing what we are told is good. Doing what makes G-d happy without being told is even deeper. That's why the most intensely loving moment between G-d and the Jewish people is Simchas Torah. I'm not sure if you are a good husband or an amazing one. But either way you need to come celebrate Simchas Torah. Because it's what G-d would like, or because your wife told you to. Good Shabbos and Good Yomtov, Rabbi Moss Source: Siddur im Dach Shaar Sukkos SIMCHAS TORAH CELEBRATIONS THIS MONDAY 6:30PM UNTIL LATE AT FRANCIS ST details below To subscribe CLICK HERE or email rabbimoss@nefesh.com.au        SEE YOU IN THE SUKKAH TONIGHT!    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ALL SERVICES AT NEFESH    1 FRANCIS ST BONDI BEACH   (OFF CAMPBELL PDE, BEHIND NOAH'S BACKPACKERS)   SHABBOS TIMES & COMMUNITY INFO: SHABBOS CHOL HAMOED SUKKOS ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Friday, 28 September 2018 | 19 Tishrei 5779 Candle Lighting.................................... 5:37pm Mincha................................................ 5:45pm Shabbos Service................................... 6:00-6:50pm Kids Program....................................... 6:00pm Kiddush in the Sukkah sponsored by Libby Moss & Peter Irving in honour of the yortzheit for their late father, Henry Irving (Tzvi ben Reuven) on 20 Tishrei/ Saturday 29 September; and by Dan and Lisa Helfand in honour of Rabbi Moss and Nechama Dina and family.   Shabbos Day, 29 September 2018 | 20 Tishrei 5779 Shabbos Service............................ 10:00am-12:20pm Kids Program ............................... 10:30am Followed by Kiddush in the Sukkah   Mincha......................................... 5:35pm Seudah Shlishis in the Sukkah Maariv and Shabbos ends................6:33pm Followed by Havdalah   WEEKDAY SERVICES Sunday Hoshana Rabba................................ 8:00am Wed- Fri..................................................... 7:00am Latest Shema this week............................... 8:39am CONDOLENCES Isaac, Michelle, Michael and David Barel on the passing of their wife and mother, Wendy Barel A"H   HAPPY BIRTHDAY Larnce Gold... 19 Tishrei/ Friday 28 September Maya Segre... 23 Tishrei/ Tuesday 2 October   HAPPY ANNIVERSARY Bella & Reuven Barukh... 26 Tishrei/ Friday 5 October   LONG LIFE Libby Moss and Peter Irving for their late father, Henry Irving Tzvi ben Reuven... 20 Tishrei/ Saturday 29 September SERVICE TIMES FOR SHEMINI ATZERES & SIMCHAS TORAH ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Sunday, 30 September 2018 - Erev Shemini Atzeres Light Candles.................................. 5:39pm Mincha........................................... 5:50pm Shemini Atzeres Evening Service....... 6:00pm Kiddush in the Sukkah sponsored by Michael & Linda Lenn and Hakafos/Dancing.   Monday, 1 October 2018 - Shemini Atzeres Morning Service................................ 10am - 1pm Yizkor.............................................. 11:30am (approx.) Kiddush in the Sukkah   Mincha .......................................... 5:50pm Simchas Torah Evening Service......... 6:30pm Huge Kiddush, Hakafos/Dancing, Kids Special Feature, Somersaults, Yom Tov meal (till late) Light Candles............. after 6:35pm   Tuesday, 2 October 2018 - Simchas Torah Morning Service................................ 10:00am Big Kiddush ......................................11:00am  Hakafos/Dancing, Completing Torah and starting again, Lunch    Mincha............................................. 5:50pm Yom Tov ends and Maariv....................6:36pm   THANK YOU TO OUR SIMCHAS TORAH SPONSORS: Richard Skimin, Jared and Nicole Gersun, Dovi and Janine Diamond, Moshe David, Nick and Lilach Weininger, Moshe Moses, Jack and Leyat Reuben, Ron & Libby Moss and Maxine & Lance Radus!

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What Does Pe-Pe-Pe Mean?

Last Simchas Torah Honours

Question of the Week: I am hoping you can explain something about my grandmother. Every time she would give me a compliment she would add "pe pe pe." (Nice haircut pe pe pe/I like your dress pe pe pe/Well done on your test pe pe pe)  I was too young to ask her what that meant and no one in my family has the faintest idea what she was doing. Do you? Answer: Yes, I know exactly what she was doing. She was spitting in your face. In a nice way. She meant it with love. Her pe pe pe was saving you from the Evil Eye. There is a belief that when someone's virtues are highlighted, there is a risk of harm from the forces of evil. Heaping praise or speaking too much good about you could invite the Evil Eye, the destructive powers of the universe, to counter the praise by hurling negative energy and bringing into question whether you really are so good. But the Evil Eye only poses a risk when you give praise and praise only. You can block the Evil Eye if you spit at the person you are praising. The insult of being spat at serves to counter-balance the praise, thus neutralising the powers of evil. A full blown spit is not necessary. I little pe pe pe does the job. That's what your grandmother was doing. And she didn't make it up. This custom is mentioned by the holy master Rabbi Levi Yitzchok of Berditchev in a curious context. He used it to explain the rain on Sukkos. Something that has baffled meteorologists around the world is the sudden weather change after Yom Kippur. As Sukkos arrives we seem to always get an unexpected downpour. This is so reliable that my non-Jewish neighbour brings her pot plants inside as soon as she sees us build the Sukkah. It seems a little ironic. How can G-d let it rain on the one festival when we eat outdoors? Rabbi Levi Yitzchok explained that rain on Sukkos is actually a blessing. Sukkos is the celebration of the cleansing of our souls that happened on Yom Kippur. As we sit in the holy shade of the Sukkah, celebrating the new year and our newly purified souls, the Evil Eye may look at us with an accusing glance. We have it too good. We don't deserve to be forgiven for our sins. We aren't worthy of such special treatment. We are spoilt. So it rains on Sukkos. G-d is spitting on us. After showering us with blessings on Yom Kippur, the rain is G-d saying pe pe pe. The Evil Eye should leave us alone. We do deserve to be forgiven, and we do deserve to celebrate in G-d's Sukkah, because no matter what we do, we are His children. The rain, like your grandmother's pe pe pe, is all an expression of love. Good Shabbos and Good Yomtov, Rabbi Moss Source: Yashresh Yaakov on Shema Shlomo (Karlin) Parshas Kedoshim. This explanation reconciles the Chassidic custom to remain in the Sukkah in the rain with the Talmudic statement that rain on Sukkos is an expression of divine displeasure. Indeed, pe pe pe is an insult. But who would walk away from such a loving insult?    To subscribe CLICK HERE or email rabbimoss@nefesh.com.au        OUR SUKKAH IS GOING UP - WITH THE BEST VIEWS IN BONDI!    JOIN US RAIN HAIL OR SHINE (see Sukkos times below)   SUKKOS SPONSORSHIPS AND SIMCHAS TORAH HONOURS  click here Help make this Sukkos one to remember. 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May they go from strength to strength.   Monday, 24 September 2018 - Sukkos, Day 1 Morning Service....................................................... 10am - 1pm Kiddush in the Sukkah sponsored by....CLICK HERE TO SPONSOR   Mincha ........................................................................ 5:45pm Sukkos Evening Service.................................................. 6:30pm   Light Candles........................................................... after 6:30pm   Tuesday, 25 September 2018 - Sukkos, Day 2 Morning Service....................................................... 10am - 1pm Kiddush in the Sukkah sponsored by....CLICK HERE TO SPONSOR   Mincha.........................................................................5:45pm Yom Tov ends and Maariv.............................................. 6:30pm   CHOL HAMOED SUKKOS Wed-Fri, 26-28 September 2018 - Sukkos, Chol HaMoed Shacharis ................................................................... 7:00am

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