Thursday, April 19, 2018

Was My Divorce a Big Mistake?

Question of the Week:

After my recent divorce I have done a lot of thinking. Does the failure of my marriage mean that I didn't marry my soulmate? Or does it mean I did marry the right person, and now I have lost my soulmate...? In other words, was it destined to be, or not?
 
Answer:
 
People have free choice. We can marry Mr Wrong, or divorce Mr Right. We have to take responsibility for choosing a partner, even if things didn't work out.
 
And yet, when a marriage ends in divorce, it's not to say that it was not meant to be in the first place. Alongside the belief in free choice, we also believe that whatever happened in the past was supposed to happen. And so you married the person you were destined to marry. It was meant to be. And it was meant to end.
 
Here is the paradox of faith: What I am about to do is my choice. Once I have done it, it was meant to be. I am responsible for my actions. I made the bed, and I have to sleep in it. But now that I did, I couldn't have slept anywhere else.  
 
As painful as it may have been, your divorce was a part of your soul mission. We can only guess why.
 
Perhaps the ill-fated marriage was a correction for something in a past life. It could be you have a soulmate from your previous incarnation that you didn't marry the first time around, as well as a soulmate from your current incarnation, and so you have to marry both.
 
Perhaps you needed to bring a child into the world who otherwise would not have been born.
 
Or perhaps it was a necessary step in your path of learning, bringing you closer to your true self, and your true soulmate.
 
We don't take divorce lightly. It is a tragic last resort when all attempts to heal a toxic marriage have failed. And sometimes it isn't your choice. But if it has happened, you have to trust that this is your soul's path. May G-d give you the strength and wisdom to navigate the next step on that path.  
 
Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

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Shabbos Day, 21 April 2018 | 6 Iyar 5778
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Thursday, April 12, 2018

A Cure for Your Screen Addiction

Question of the Week:

I am 16 years old and I am an atheist. I attend a Jewish High School, and we have compulsory prayers every morning for about twenty minutes. I have argued that there is no point in me taking part due to my lack of faith, so I should be allowed to read a book. My teacher said I should ask you this question - is there any benefit for me to say the prayers? If you can somehow convince me that I am not wasting my time, I will consider it...

Answer:

I challenge you to try this.

When it's time for prayers, sit with your prayer book open and start reading. For the next twenty minutes, try not to take your eyes off the book. See if you are able to maintain focus and concentration for the entire duration of the prayers.

I don't mean to have mystical intentions or to meditate on anything in particular. Just look at the letters on the page without lifting your eyes.

It will be excruciatingly hard. At first you might only be able to do a minute or so. But over time, if you persist, you will be able to hold focus for the entire twenty minutes.

This is an amazingly powerful brain exercise. In our generation of minimised attention spans and over-stimulated screen addictions, the ability to maintain focus on one thing for an extended time is a precious and much needed gift. By doing this exercise daily you will get a huge head start in life. Because focus, discipline and persistence are tools that every successful person must have. You will not learn these skills from your phone. You will learn them from your prayer book.

Now you might argue, if I'm going to spend twenty minutes focusing on one thing, why not focus on a book that I'm interested in reading, rather than a prayer book that doesn't interest me at all? Well that's the whole point. The idea is to focus on something that is not your thing. It's not your interest, it's not what your mind is curious about it, it is something completely beyond and outside of you. The discipline and self-control required to do something you are not in the mood of doing is itself an achievement, and a vital skill in life.

This is actually the true purpose of prayer. To transcend yourself for a few moments a day. It will not only make you a better reader, it will make you a better person. Believe it or not.

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

Source:
See Tanya Chapter 28

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Mission complete! We have now completed shotcrete in the basement. Hopefully next week we will get back on to footings and plumbing in the basement. Have a wonderful weekend! Brent
 


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The Remember The Yom team of Robyn Pakula and Larnce Gold have teamed up again to create another powerful image for Yom Hashoah 2018.

On March 18th 2018, over 70 survivor family, friends, and the great survivor himself Tuwia Lipson, 92, descended upon Victoria's Cranbourne East to create a powerful image in honour of Yom Hashoah.

The goal was to make a standing formation of a Magen David over an unused railway line. Everyone was given yellow t-shirts and yellow hats to wear, which signified the yellow Star of David that the Nazis forced all Jews to wear.

Once the formation of the Magen David was complete, the remarkable Tuwia Lipson was carried out to the train line in his wheel chair to sit in the middle of the Shield of David.
 
RememberTheYom is a project created to help remember & honour Yom Hashoah, 'Holocaust Remembrance Day' and to inspire and encourage others to create a meaningful and relevant dialogue to help them process and engage in remembering the day.

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Wednesday, April 4, 2018

How Will I Get Out of This One?

Question of the Week: 
 
My spiritual life has come to a standstill. Every time I try to take a step up, I get a hit. I have committed to keeping Shabbos, and now I am having trouble at work. I have started keeping kosher but my family is resisting big time. It seems my path is always blocked. Will this ever end?

Answer:

You need a Red Sea moment. You are like the Israelites being chased by the Egyptians from behind, blocked by the sea in front. Their past is haunting them, and their future is eluding them. You know what happened next? Well it can happen to you too.

In what seems to be a strange addition to the story of the splitting of the sea, the Talmud states that not only did the water of the Red Sea split, but in fact every body of water in the entire world split. This would include the Yangtze River in China, Copacabana Beach, a cup of coffee in Swaziland, and a swimming pool in Malibu. Every single body of water in the entire world split into two.

What would be the point of that? The Israelites needed of the Red Sea to split because it was blocking their way to Mount Sinai. But why would all of the water in the world also need to split?

The miracle that happened at the Red Sea was not just a one-off event. Not only did the sea split, but along with it, every blockage to every spiritual path for every person in every place for all times split wide open.

Anyone who sets out on a true spiritual journey should know that sooner or later you will come to an impasse. The world will not give you free passage to reach your soul's destination. Obstacles will be thrown at you, roadblocks will put in your way. You are being tested. If your desire for truth is real, then you will keep on going. Walk into the water. Don't run away. Face the roadblock head on.

It is going to get tough. Nothing will change at first. It is then that you must remember, when the Red Sea split, all seas split. Every blockage in the world is only there for you to overcome it. Keep on marching into the water. Even if it comes up to your neck, just march on. The waters will split and you'll get through. The miracle has already happened, the path was opened for you thousands of years ago. There is nothing in the world, not an ocean or a river or a cup of coffee, that can stand in the way of you reaching your mountain.

Good Yomtov and Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

Sources:
Shmos Rabba 21:6
R' Sholom of Belz


This week we have spent time preparing for Shot Crete and continuing to fine tune the drawings of the building. As you can see from the before and after photos, we have to clean each pier individually so the concrete will stick to them to make good strong solid walls for our dear shul. Chag Sameach, Brent
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