Thursday, September 23, 2021

Why Two Days Yomtov?

Question of the Week

Why on earth do we still keep two days of Yomtov outside of Israel? I know the history: in ancient times people didn't have calendars on their phones, because the calendar was not set in advance, but rather month by month. When witnesses saw the new moon they reported it to the rabbis in the Temple, and the rabbis would declare that a new month had begun. It would take a couple of weeks for the message to reach outlying communities, so they could never be sure of the correct date to celebrate the festivals. So the Diaspora communities kept two days to be on the safe side. 

That made sense back then, but for heavens sake, we have calendars today! Why do we still keep two days in the Diaspora for every festival that is one day in Israel?

For me, this is one of the most ridiculous laws. It's like the World Jewish Council of Rabbis can't be bothered to overturn it or discuss it. Or perhaps they fear a backlash from Jewish bakers, butchers and grocers around the world who like having more Jewish festivals with more meals....

Can't we update this one already?

Answer:

I remember I had a teacher who had very little patience. If a student missed out on what he said, he got furious and thundered, "Why can't you listen the first time? I will not repeat myself."

This is not fair. Not everyone can grasp an idea all at once. Some gifted individuals are sharp enough to get it the first time. But many of us need to hear something twice before it sinks in. A good teacher should know this.

G-d is the greatest teacher, and time itself is His classroom. Every festival in the Jewish calendar is like a lesson G-d teaches to the world. On Pesach we learn about freedom, and G-d beams a light of liberty into the world. On Sukkos we study the meaning of true happiness, and G-d sends the gift of joy into our hearts. Each festival and its observances are the way we receive the lesson, the light and wisdom of the day.

When you live in the Holy Land, the very air makes you wise, and opens you up to spiritual wisdom. Like a gifted student, you get the lesson the first time. You need only celebrate one day of each festival, and its message hits home straight away.

In the Diaspora, we just don't get it so fast. We need more time for the lesson to sink in, as the air here is not as spiritually refined as the holy air of Israel. And so we are given a second day, another chance to fully absorb the power of the festival and for the message to hit home.

Our sages prophesied that one day in the future, the holiness of Israel will cover the entire earth, and then we will all get it the first time. Until then, we in the Diaspora can enjoy the extended holiness of an extra day. 

Does this all make sense? If not, I am happy to repeat it.

Good Shabbos and Good Yomtov,
Rabbi Moss

Source:
Likkutei Torah Shmini Atzeres 92c

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Thursday, May 27, 2021

I Did My Best. Did I Mess Up?

Question of the Week

I am not Jewish, but have many Jewish work colleagues. I attended my first Jewish funeral for an old boss this week. I tried to be respectful and follow protocol, but I think I may have messed up. As I was leaving, someone said to me, "I've sim cards."  I was a little taken aback.  Why would people be selling phone plans at a funeral?  Then another person said the same thing to me, which I thought was strange. I thanked them and explained that I am locked into a 24 month contract. When a third person also told me "I've sim cards" I started to think maybe I was misunderstanding something. Is it customary to buy a new sim card after a Jewish funeral?

Answer

You did very well, and you did not mess up at all. Your confusion is completely understandable. What you were hearing had nothing to do with phone contracts. It was a Yiddish blessing. They were saying, "Oif Simchas."

The meaning of the blessing is, "We should meet at happy occasions." It is customary to say this after meeting in sad circumstances. We wish each other that next time we cross paths, it should be for a joyous celebration rather than a time of sorrow. 

This little expression contains some very profound wisdom. We are not just saying "Let's meet at happy times." We are saying, "Let's behave in happy times the way we behave at difficult times."

Funerals often bring out our better side. Death brings people together. The community unites to support the bereaved. Friends who have been out of touch reach out to offer comfort. Even estranged family members who were not on speaking terms may end up sitting together and making peace. United in pain, petty arguments fall away, and silly things that divide us don't matter any more. In the face of mortality, we appreciate life and the people we live with. 

It is a sad quirk of human nature that we are quicker to come together when something bad happens. But we are not stuck in our nature. We can transcend it. If we can unite when we experience loss, then we can unite any time. It's a choice: hold on to our pettiness, or let go and live a fuller life. 

So when we leave a funeral we say, "Oif Simchas." Let's not wait for another loss to come together. Let's unite at happy times just as we do for the not-so-happy times. Let's appreciate what we have while we still have it. Rather than just cry together, let's celebrate together. 

Life is short. Even lock-in contracts come to an end eventually. In the meantime, make sure your connections are strong.

Oif Simchas!
Rabbi Moss

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Thursday, May 20, 2021

A Weird Fear of Death?

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Question of the Week

I have a fear of dying. But it expresses itself in a weird way. I have read stories of people doing one mitzvah and then dropping dead, because that one good deed was their life mission. So now every time I do something good, I think maybe this is my last. This freaks me out and it isn't good. Should I try not to fulfill my mission so I can live, or do good deeds and die?

Answer

There are two types of workers: employees and contractors. A contractor is there to do their job, and that's it. As long as I have completed the tasks given me, as long as the items on my to-do list are all ticked off, I have done my bit and I can go home.

But an employee has to work until the day is over. It is not enough that my immediate tasks are completed, I have to seek out more work and ensure every moment of the day is productive. Otherwise I am short-changing my employer. 

We live in G-d's big factory, and we are all workers, each with a specific role to play. We each contribute our part to the grand scheme of creating a better world. And we have a choice. We can either suffice with fulfilling our obligation alone, and no more, or we can go beyond that. As long as the job is not yet done, as long as the world is not yet full of goodness, we still have work to do.

If you choose to work like a contractor, only seeking to fulfill your mission, once your job is done you have nothing more to offer, and it is time for you to leave this world. But if you choose to be an employee, to serve G-d not for your own self-fulfillment but for His sake, then there is no end to the good you can do. And so even once you have fulfilled your personal mission, you go on to another task, and then another, until your day is up.

Never say you've done enough. And don't be scared of running out of good deeds to do. There's still plenty of work out there. Go do it.

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

PS. There are rare cases when a soul is sent down here with one single mission to achieve, and once that is done, they are free to go back to heaven. Sad for us, these special souls leave us early, and we should be thankful for ever having met them.

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Thursday, May 13, 2021

Israel's Hidden Weapons

Question of the Week

It's a lovely idea to do a mitzvah for Israel. But honestly, why would my lighting candles or giving charity make any difference to Hamas? They will keep on sending rockets no matter how many mitzvahs I do. Is the mitzvah campaign there just to make us feel like we are doing something?

Answer

We feel far away and helpless when we see Israel under attack.

This is not the case. We are never far from Israel. And we are never helpless. 

Israel is a land like no other. It is called the Holy Land by all peoples.  So while we may not be physically in the land, we are always connected to it. Because holiness is everywhere, and holiness is beyond the limits of physical space.

Most of us can do little to help protect the land militarily. That is the job of the IDF and the Israeli government. We pray that they have the strength and vision to defend the land and its people.

But our sages teach that each one of us is a microcosm. There is an entire world in each human being. So just as the world has one country called the Holy Land, so too we all have a Holy Land inside us. That is our spiritual life.

The mitzvahs you do, the Torah you learn, the pockets of holiness you create in your home and in your day, that is your Israel, your Holy Land. During those sacred moments, no matter where you are, you are in Israel. 

Your Israel, like the land itself, needs secure borders, a clear resolve and an unquestioning sense of purpose. That means now is the time to reinforce our Jewish pride and Jewish practice. If our enemies want less Jews, we will respond by being more Jewish. If they wish to break our resolve, we will redouble it.

When we boost our own Israel, our spiritual life, we send strength to Israel, our spiritual homeland. There is a collective Jewish spirit that we are all part of. When we fortify ourselves, we fortify the whole.

This is not just a mystical concept. It's scientific. The greatest defensive weapons are faith, determination, positivity and belief in your cause. When we display our solidarity with Israel, by being prouder and more active Jews, we lift the morale of the soldiers, leaders and citizens of Israel. They can face this testing moment with extra confidence, knowing that millions around the world are behind them.

Israel is under attack. We need to help secure it, by strengthening our own Holy Land. Let's add a new mitzvah, or improve one we do already. Learn an additional piece of Torah in our day or our week, give more charity, and deepen our love for our fellow.

May G-d bless Israel with peace. 

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

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Thursday, May 6, 2021

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OUR RESPONSE TO THE MERON TRAGEDY

The Jewish nation is hurting. The unfathomable loss of 45 innocent souls in the Meron tragedy has touched us all.

Now is not the time for finger-pointing and blame. Now is not the time for explanations and justifications. Now is the time to comfort the grieving families.

But what can we say to comfort them?

Nothing. And that is fine.

The mitzvah to comfort mourners is performed by paying a visit and listening. Jewish law dictates that when visiting a mourner, the visitor should not open the conversation. We leave it to the mourner to set the tone. The visitor should just listen, acknowledge, respond where appropriate and take to heart what the mourner says.

So let's do that now. Let's pay a virtual visit to the mourners, some of the families who lost loved ones in the Meron tragedy. And let's listen to what they are saying.


Yedidya Chiyut celebrated his bar mitzvah just two weeks before Lag Baomer. He was excited to accompany his father, Rabbi Avigdor Chiyut, to visit Meron for the first time. Yedidya was one of the holy souls who was returned to its Maker in the Meron tragedy. His father, who was injured, left his hospital bed on Saturday night to attend the funeral.

And this is what he said:

"Yedidya, we will be strong and we will move forward, you will never part from us. Tonight, both your mother and I bought burial plots next to you.

"In the meantime we have sent you as an ambassador to heaven, to meet your little sister who died immediately upon birth. You will get to know all the sages and holy people you've learned about. I only wish that we could achieve a small fraction of what you've achieved in your studies and in your devotion to holiness.

"Yedidya, you always did whatever your father requested of you, so I'm asking you for one more thing: Go to G‑d and tell him, 'Enough! Enough!' Yedidya we love you, I love you. We'll meet again soon."

Rabbi Avigdor Chiyut concluded with a call for unity: "Yedidya was righteous and holy. If he wanted me to say anything, it would be this: 'We all have something in common, we are all Jews. This is the time and the place to unite.'"


Ruti Anakava was left speechless as she heard the stories pouring out about her late husband Yisroel. Always caring for others, always thinking of others. As a husband and father, Yisroel dedicated his life to make his wife and kids happy. But when a stranger named Binyamin came in and said this, she couldn't hold back her tears anymore:

"We were crammed there, and we couldn't breathe. I was next to Yisroel. He was a powerful man and he could have thrown himself over the fence. But then he saw me. And with superhuman powers, he pulled me out of the pile of death and threw me over the fence."

Binyamin emotionally explained that Yisroel saved his life, a complete stranger. Moments later, Yisroel was crushed to death.

Ruti said, "My husband lived for others, and he died for others."

"He was a good soul, a generous heart, and was always the first to help everyone with kindness and joy," says Yisroel's brother-in-law. "He distanced himself from arguments and saw the good in everyone. Yisroel loved nature very much, and especially caring for animals and flowers, with his gentle and good soul. We should learn from his ways and see only the good in others. That is how we can honour his soul."

Ruti said, "If you want to honour my husband, go learn another page of Torah."


Simcha Bunim Diskind, 23, a father of two living in Beit Shemesh, was amongst those who lost their lives in the Meron disaster.

"I know it's good up there for Simcha Bunim," said his brother. "I'm sure he's sitting up there right now, studying Zohar with Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai, waving goodbye to me, with his neverending smile. We remain here with shattered hearts, broken and in pain. I promise you that we will do everything for little Mindy and Moishe," he said about Simcha Bunim's two young children.

"We can't understand Hashem's ways, but we can show Him how we respond as a nation during times of tragedy."

"He radiated joy and made everyone happy. Everyone felt close to him, no matter who they were," says his father, Yaakov Diskind. "Our son was a gift, and we thank G‑d for the years that we had the privilege of raising him. Just as we do not ask why G‑d gives us a gift, we do not ask why he takes it from us."


The pain of this tragedy has brought together people of all stripes. The shiva homes in Israel have been inundated with visitors, often complete strangers who have been moved to offer their comfort. One such visitor, a non-religious young man, posted the following on social media after he left the Engrald home:

I have just experienced one of the most significant moments in my life.

I am currently leaving the shiva home of the Engrald family, who lost their two children in the Meron disaster, Moshe Natan Neta (14) and Yehoshua Engrald (9). And my heart is bursting with a mix of feelings. My eyes are full of tears of sadness, but my heart is flooded with joy.

When my friend Maor and I, wearing jeans and a T-shirt, entered their house, we stuck out in the Haredi landscape. Some of the eyes were raised towards us, and two charming Haredim got up straight from their seats and let us sit right in front of Menachem Mendel, the father who lost his two sons a few days ago. He caught our eye and immediately stopped speaking Yiddish with the rest of the comforters and turned to us in Hebrew. We froze, given the size of the group.

"I'm glad you came," he says, his eyes wet with tears but his face radiates a glow:

"When would we have gotten to meet, you and me?" Maor and I look at him with his sparkling eyes as if an angel is talking to us.

"You will know that what is happening here is the truth. You and I are in pain together over the great loss and are strengthening each other. It does not matter if you are secular or religious. We are Jews."

The whole crowd of comforters quietly began to shake back and forth as if in prayer as they listen to Menachem Mendel speak to us.

"I want you to invite me to your simchas (celebrations)!" he exclaims. "And I will invite you to my simchas!"

The tears just erupted spontaneously.

A few seconds of silence, he looks down and mumbles, "Who is like Your people Israel ..."

After the prayers ended, we approached him and before we could say the words of consolation he said to us: "Thank you for coming, you strengthened me"

Maor and I leave the house, looking at each other and unable to talk. I do not absorb what just happened. And as I write these lines I still do not fully absorb it.

This encounter represents the truth of our people, the endless love that exists between us.


There is nothing more to say. The mourners have spoken, with a call for faith that is unbreakable, love that is unconditional, courage that is unassailable and positivity that is inexplicable. We comfort them by heeding their words and by doing another mitzvah.

Who is like Your people Israel. 

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

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Count Omer................................. Day 41
Kiddush sponsored by Jenny Kantorovich in honour of the yortzheit for her late grandmother, Riva Kantorovich (Rivka bat Aharon) on 27 Iyar/9 May – Long Life.

Saturday, 8 May 2021 | 26 Iyar 5781
Shiur with Rabbi Moss......................... 9:15am
Shabbos Morning Service... 10:00am - 12:20pm
Children's Program ........................... 11:00am
Kiddush in honour of Hannah and Sarah Ezekiel's birthdays – Mazal Tov! 

Mincha ................ after Kiddush
Pirkei Ovos........... Chapter 5
Shabbos ends....... 5:47pm
Count Omer.......... Day 42

Latest Shema this week...... 9:10am
New Moon/Molad............... Tuesday 11 May 8:31:7pm
Rosh Chodesh Sivan........... Wednesday 12 May

CONDOLENCES
Lance, Anton and Justin Rosenberg  on the passing of their mother Pauline OBM.
Nicki Ensly, Eva, Gary and Geoff Lang on the passing of their father and husband Andrew Lang OBM.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY
Chaya Ezekiel ................... 27 Iyar/Sunday 9 May
Peter Goldshaft ................. 28 Iyar/Monday 10 May
Sabrina Tsipris.................... 2 Sivan/Thursday 13 May

LONG LIFE FOR YORTZHEITS
Jenny Kantorovich for her late grandmother Riva Kantorovich,
Rivka bat Aharon...27 Iyar/Sunday 9 May

Sara Bos for her late father Isaac Barel
Yitzchok Ben Eliahu...29 Iyar/Tuesday 11 May

Tina Aviles for her late father Leo Arya
Ben Jonatan... 29 Iyar/Tuesday 11 May

Lesley Judelman for her late brother David Ivan Steinhard,
Itzchak Dovid ben Zalman...1 Sivan/Wednesday 12 May

Judy Amzalak for her late father Moshe Tuvia ben Abraham Aaron... 2 Sivan/Thursday 13 May

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Thursday, April 29, 2021

Have I Lost My Mind?

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Question of the Week:

I grew up hearing that to learn Kabbalah you have to be married, over forty, and an accomplished scholar. Otherwise you will go mad. Yet these days it seems everyone and anyone studies Kabbalah. So is what I heard not true or have the rules changed? Or have we all gone mad?

Answer:

The origin of the belief that Kabbalah study is dangerous seems to be a Talmudic tale.

There were four rabbis who shared an out-of-body mystical experience, where their souls wandered off into the higher realms. They were Ben Azzai, Ben Zoma, Elisha ben Avuya and Rabbi Akiva.

Each of these scholars was impacted differently by the experience. For three of them, it was not a happy ending.

Ben Azzai died. Ben Zoma went mad. Elisha ben Avuya lost his faith. Only Rabbi Akiva was able to internalize and process this mystical experience, and come back down to earth unharmed.

They all shared the same vision, yet they were impacted so differently. When we analyze some biographical details of these four scholars we can understand why.

Ben Azzai was a permanent bachelor. He refused to get married, feeling that having a family would interfere with his spiritual life. His celibacy left him unattached to the here and now, so when he tasted the bliss of heaven he didn't want to come back. He had nothing to come back for. So he didn't. He died.

Ben Zoma was a promising young scholar. But he was undeveloped. He didn't have the maturity and stability to handle such high levels of revelation. His gifted but unripe mind was overloaded, and he went crazy.

Elisha ben Avuya was a brilliant man. But he had a weakness. He mingled his Kabbalistic ideas with concepts from Greek philosophy. He diluted the purity of the Torah by trying to fit it into worldly wisdom. And so in the end his confused spirituality led him astray. He misinterpreted the visions he saw and became a non-believer.

Why was Rabbi Akiva different? We know about Rabbi Akiva that unlike Ben Azzai, he was married. We also know that unlike Ben Zoma, he was a mature late bloomer. Until he was forty, he could not even read Hebrew. It was his wife Rochel who inspired him to start at the beginning and learn Torah from scratch. And unlike Elisha ben Avuya, he studied Torah in purity.

So from Rabbi Akiva we learn that safe entry into the mysteries of Kabbalah requires the maturity and groundedness of a married scholar who is over forty. Anyone else who dares to wander into the esoteric orchard risks losing their mind, or their faith, or even their life.

So can young, unripe and uninitiated novices study Kabbalah? Absolutely. Because there is a difference between Kabbalistic study and Kabbalistic experience. These three scholars were harmed because they were experimenting with out-of-body journeys, using divine names to enter higher worlds. You've got to be a Rabbi Akiva to dabble in that.

But studying the wisdom of Kabbalah is a different story. It doesn't matter so much who is learning Kabbalah, the question is more who is doing the teaching. If you have a pious teacher with authentic training, you can study Kabbalah anytime. If you plug in to the right sources, Kabbalah won't drive you mad. On the contrary, it will give you a taste of spiritual sanity in an otherwise mad world. 

Good Shabbos and Happy Lag Baomer,
Rabbi Moss

Sources:
Talmud Chagiga 14b. See also  Zohar I 26b and Tikkunei Zohar, Tikkun 40

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Friday, 30 April 2021 | 18 Iyar 5781
Candle Lighting ...............4:58pm 
Shabbos Evening Service ...6:00-6:50pm
Count Omer Day 34
Followed by Kiddush 

Saturday, 1 May 2021 | 12 Iyar 5781
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Shabbos Morning Service with Bar Mitzvah of Daniel Super... 10:00am - 12:20pm
Children's Program.......................................................... 11:00am
Kiddush in honour of Daniel Super's Bar Mitzvah – Mazal Tov! 

Mincha after Kiddush
Pirkei Ovos Chapter 4 

Shabbos ends........... 5:53pm 
Maariv at the Mosses..6:00pm
Count Omer Day 34

Latest Shema this week... 9:08am

MAZAL TOV 
Gideon & Rita Super and their families on Daniel's Bar Mitzvah.
Mel Licker & Claudia Mangel on their wedding.  

HAPPY BIRTHDAY
Jonathan Shapira... 22 Iyar/Tuesday, 4 May
Suzy Moss............ 23 Iyar/Wednesday, 5 May
Andrew Whitten.... 25 Iyar/Friday, 7 May

LONG LIFE FOR YORTZHEITS
Tami Kaplan and Wayne Kaplan for their late father Alan Kaplan... 19 Iyar/Saturday, 1 May
Steven Clemans for his late father Julian Clemans Yaakov ben Moshe... 20 Iyar/Sunday, 2 May
Moshe Moses Adee Moses for their late mother Matilda Moses, Masouda bat Toba... 25 Iyar/Friday, 7 May
Theresa Bengis for the late Tess Barnett, Naomi bat Avraham... 25 Iyar/Friday, 7 May


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