Thursday, January 11, 2018

You've Been Caught in the Act

Question of the Week:

My acting career seems to be at a dead end. Every time I come close to a huge role something goes wrong and I miss out. I have tried every avenue I can think of, even changing agents, but it hasn't helped. I am professional, hard-working, dedicated and I believe I have talent (this has been confirmed to me by others too). But I am starting to think I simply wasn't meant to be an actor. Should I just come to terms with being a failure?

Answer:

My friend, there is only one thing you need to come to terms with. You are not an actor. You may be good at acting, but that is not who you are, it is what you do. Stop identifying yourself by your career. You need to discover an identity that is beyond your work. That way, success and failure in your career will not spell success or failure in your life.

In our world of inverted values, a man is called successful because he has made a lot of money. He may have abandoned his third wife, be estranged from his children, have no friends and his dog ran away from him. But he's done well at work, and people say, "I wish I had his luck."

We achieve true success when we succeed in our relationships. If you are a caring friend in times of need, if you treat your parents well, if you are a supportive and understanding spouse, a devoted and caring parent, then you are a success. Those who contribute to the community, not just money but time and effort, those who have developed happy relationships with G-d and man, they are real success stories.

As long as we identify ourselves with our profession - I am an actor, a sales person, an IT technician - then we are pinning our success as a person on our career success. But it's not true. We are not defined by our job. What we do to make a living is different to what we do to make a life. We work to make a living. But to make a life we must love, connect, serve a purpose and find meaning.

This is the gift of Shabbos. One day a week we step out of our workday roles and return to our true self. We are not staff members but rather members of a community; we are not employers or employees but rather brothers and sisters, children, parents and friends. We are not working for a boss to do our job, but rather working for The Boss to fulfill our mission.

You may be great at doing your work. Or maybe not. But it's more important to be good at being human. When it comes to being human, even a failed businessman can be the greatest success story, and a struggling actor can be a star.

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

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We faced a small hiccup when one of the main cables on the drilling machine snapped! These things happen, but due to the holiday season it took some days to remedy. We are finally back on course this week and will be finished drilling all piles by the end of next week G-d willing.


I hope everyone had a great holiday period. Wishing everyone the best and hoping to provide more exciting update next week :-)


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SHABBOS SERVICES
Friday, 12 January 2018 | 25 Teves 5778
Candle Lighting.............. 7:52pm (Not before 6:44pm)
Mincha.......................... 6:15pm
Shabbos Service............ 6:30-7:20pm 
(Kids Program on summer break)
Teen Boys Davening....... 6:30pm
Followed by Kiddush sponsored by Peter Irving and Libby Moss in honour of the yortzheit of their late mother Joan Cohen (Chana Bas Yesse) on 27 Teves/ 14 January- Long Life.
 
Shabbos Day, 13 Jan 2018 | 26 Teves 5778
In depth parsha class ..........................9:00am
Shabbos Service.................. 10:00am-12:20pm
(Kids Program on summer break)
Followed by Farbengen to welcome back the Mosses from Melbourne.
 
Mincha followed by Seudah Shlishis ......... 7:50pm
Gematria and story by Rev Amzalak......... 8:10pm
Shiur by Rabbi Moss............................... 8:30pm
Shabbos ends and Maariv........................ 8:52pm
Followed by Havdalah 
 
NEW MOON/ MOLAD
WEDNESDAY 17 JAN | 2:25:2AM
ROSH CHODESH SHEVAT | WEDNESDAY 17 JAN
 
WEEKDAY SERVICES
Sunday.......................... 8:00am
Monday-Friday................ 7:00am
Latest Shema this week... 9:27am
 
MAZEL TOV TO
Doron and Lia Milner on the birth of a girl!
Dan and Tegan Barnett on the birth of a girl!
Chaim Lever and Rachel Bogomilsky on their engagement, and to the Itkin and Amzalak families! 
 
LONG LIFE TO
Judy Traub for her late husband David Traub
David ben Yaacov... 26 Tevet/ Saturday 13 January
Peter Irving and Libby Moss for their late mother Joan Cohen
Chana Bas Yesse....... 27 Teves/ Sunday 14 January
Jack Klein for his late mother
Grace Helen Klein..... 27 Tevet/ Sunday 14 January
Elana Castle for her late grandmother Celia Freed,
Chanah Tzvia ........... 28 Tevet/ Monday 15 January
Rosie Stern for her late mother
Leah Friedman......... 28 Tevet/ Monday 15 January

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Thursday, January 4, 2018

Is It Time to Move?

Question of the Week: 

It seems that my family are the modern day wandering Jews.  We have moved from city to city 5 times in the last 7 years. We like where we are now sort of, but we are always slightly on the edge (or not so slightly), making a living thank G-d, but unhappy with the schools, unhappy with the medical care, the weather, etc.  We have even gone back to the place we just came from, only to leave again when things don't work out. 
 
We need to be in one place for our 13 yr old daughter, but I don't know which place it should be. What should we do? 

Answer:

It is very clear where you need to be. You need to be where you are right now. G-d has put you there for a reason. Though you think you chose to be there, in fact you were directed there from above.
 
One of the names of G-d in Hebrew is Hamakom, which literally means The Place. There is a divine hand that leads us to the place we are in. So when the Talmud says, "Do not argue with Hamakom," it doesn't only mean you shouldn't have gripes with G-d. It means you need to make peace with the place G-d has put you. You are there because you couldn't be anywhere else.
 
You may never be completely happy with any place you live. But you will be able to settle, as soon as you decide that this is it, this is home, this is where G-d wants us to be and we are going nowhere. The very thought that you can always move, makes it likely that you will always move. But the acceptance that you are in the right place will itself help you see that you belong there.
 
Now of course, sometimes we do need to move. But only with a very clear message from heaven that it's time to go. Until then, put all your energy into making your little corner of the world a place where you and your family feel at home. Find out why you are needed there. And put your trust in Hamakom.
 
Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

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Friday, 5 January 2018 | 18 Teves 5778
Candle Lighting........................ 7:52pm
............................................ (Not before 6:44pm)
Mincha.................................... 6:15pm
Shabbos Service...................... 6:30-7:20pm 
(Kids Program on summer break)
Teen Boys Davening..................6:30pm
Followed by Kiddush.
 
Shabbos Day, 6 January 2018 | 19 Teves 5778
No parsha class this week
Shabbos Service.................. 10:00am-12:20pm
(Kids Program on summer break)
Followed by Kiddush.
 
Mincha followed by Seudah Shlishis ........ 7:50pm
Gematria and story by Rev Amzalak........ 8:15pm
Shabbos ends and Maariv...................... 8:53pm
Followed by Havdalah 
 
WEEKDAY SERVICES
Sunday.............................. 8:00am
Monday-Friday.................... 7:00am
Latest Shema this week....... 9:23am
 
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO
Richelle Goldshaft ..... 25 Tevet/ Friday 12 January
Cade Lessem ........... 25 Tevet/ Friday 12 January
 
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO
Tooti & Gavin Kotkin ...... 19 Tevet/ Saturday 6 Jan
Jared & Lauren Kaplan ... 20 Tevet/ Sunday 7 Jan
 
LONG LIFE TO
Steven, Kim and Roy Eckowitz for their late father
Henry Eckowitz,
Chona ben Shmuel...... 20 Tevet/ Sunday 7 January
Hana Krawchuk for her late grandfather
Isaac Bobrov
Yitchak Bobrov............ 20 Tevet/ Sunday 7 January
Lesley Judelman for her late father
Sam Steinhard
Zalman ben Moshe..... 20 Tevet/ Sunday 7 January
Harold Judelman for his late sister
Elaine Tudin,
Ella bat Yisroel........... 21 Tevet/ Monday 8 January
Adele Glick for her late father
Mendel Rieback..... 24 Tevet/ Thursday 11 January
Carol Melman for her late father Arnold Shapiro
Aron Ben Yitzchak....... 25 Tevet/ Friday 12 January

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Thursday, December 28, 2017

Is Equality a Myth?

Question of the Week: 

I have often heard it said that Judaism believes that women are more spiritual than men. This is supposed to explain why men have more religious obligations than women - men need these things to become closer to G-d, women are there already. But do we really believe that? Is it not just a patronising way to avoid the question of the different gender roles in Judaism?

Answer:

I remember as a child being told that men and women are equal. I had a big problem with this. I asked, "If men and woman are equal, why do men and women never compete with each other in sports? You never see a man playing against a woman in tennis, or women's soccer teams facing men's, or a mixed gender 100 metre sprint. If we are all equal, why can't we compete together?"

The answer I received was unsatisfying. "Men are on average stronger physically than women. It would not be fair for them to compete against each other in sports which require bodily strength, because men would always win. But in every other way, men and women are equal."

This did not sit well with me. If men are superior to women in physical strength, but equal in all else, then men and women are not equal. Men have an edge. Unless there is some other area of human endeavour in which women are superior, we are not equal.

This bothered me for years. Until I learnt Judaism's attitude to women.
Women are more soulful than men. While men may excel in physical prowess, women are far ahead when it comes to spiritual strength. Women are more sensitive to matters of the soul, more receptive to ideas of faith, more drawn to the divine than men. The feminine soul has an openness to the abstract and a grasp of the intangible that a male soul can only yearn for. This is why G-d told Abraham, the first Jewish man, "Whatever Sarah your wife tells you, listen to her voice." She was the greater prophet, her soul more intuitive than his.

When I first heard this idea, it suddenly all made sense. There is indeed a balance between men and women. Men have stronger bodies, women have stronger souls.
Of course there are exceptions. Some women could beat any guy in an arm wrestle. And some men are more spiritually intuned than the women around them. But for the most part, men have bigger muscles, women have deeper feelings.

The Torah gives men more physical mitzvos, to tame the body and give the soul extra power. Women don't need this help. Because although men can jump higher in the air, women can reach higher into the heavens.

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

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Friday, 29 December 2017 | 11 Teves 5778
Candle Lighting........................... 7:51pm
............................................ (Not before 6:42pm)
Mincha....................................... 6:15pm
Shabbos Service.......................... 6:30-7:20pm 
(Kids Program on summer break)
Teen Boys Davening..................... 6:30pm
Followed by Kiddush.
 
Shabbos Day, 30 December 2017 | 12 Teves
No parsha class this week
Shabbos Service.................. 10:00am-12:20pm
(Kids Program on summer break)
Followed by Kiddush.
 
Mincha followed by Seudah Shlishis ......... 7:50pm
Gematria and story by Rev Amzalak......... 8:15pm
Shabbos ends and Maariv....................... 8:53pm
Followed by Havdalah 
 
WEEKDAY SERVICES
Sunday & Monday day (Pub.hols)... 8:00am
Tuesday-Friday............................ 7:00am
Latest Shema this week................ 9:19am
 
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO
Shai Behrman.......... 17 Tevet/ Thursday 4 January
 
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO
Gavin & Beatrish Gordon...... 9 Tevet/ Wed 27 Dec
Gilda & Jonathan Shapira..... 12 Tevet/ Sat 30 Dec
Sarah & Benjy Reid............. 12 Tevet/ Sat 30 Dec
Greg & Leah Weinstein........ 13 Tevet/ Sun 31 Dec
 
LONG LIFE TO
Libby Moss and Peter Irving for their late grand mother 
Jesse Stanley... 13 Teves/ Sunday 31 Dec
Harold Judelman for his late mother Esther
Judelman, Sheina Ester bat Chaim Guttel ... 14 Tevet/ Monday 1 January
Michelle Brenner for her late father Alexander Brenner...18 Tevet/ Friday 5 January

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Thursday, December 21, 2017

Would You Turn Down a Billion Dollars?

Question of the Week:

Is our family rich?

(From my 7 year old daughter)

Answer:

Our family is extremely rich. I'll tell you why.

If someone came to me and said, "I'll give you ten thousand dollars to buy your daughter," what do you think I would say?

Would I sell one of my children for ten thousand dollars? No way!

So what if they offered a hundred thousand?

I wouldn't do it, right?

And if they offered a million? Ten million? A billion dollars to buy my daughter?

I wouldn't even need to think it over. I would not sell you for all the money in the world.

A child is more precious than anything. And thank G-d, our family has a few. Each one of you makes our family richer than anyone with a lot of money.

So yes we are very rich. Some people think kids are expensive. I think they are our wealth.

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss
 
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Friday, 22 December 2017 | 4 Teves 5778
Candle Lighting............... 7:48pm
................................ (Not before 6:40pm)
Mincha............................6:15pm
Shabbos Service............. 6:30-7:20pm 
(Kids Program on summer break for two weeks)
Teen Boys Davening....... 6:30pm
Followed by Kiddush sponsored by Josh and Orly Borenstein in honour of the birth of Leah Chai to Grant and Elana Smuts in New York - Mazal Tov! 
 
Shabbos Day, 23 December 2017 | 5 Teves
In depth Parsha Class........... 9:00am
Shabbos Service.................. 10:00am-12:20pm
(Kids Program on summer break for two weeks)
Kiddush sponsored by Friends of Nefesh to thank Rivka Leah Popack for her amazing contribution to the Nefesh Kids Program and wish her all the best for the future!
 
L'Chaim in honour of Gavi Sufrin's Birthday- Mazal Tov!
 
Mincha followed by Seudah Shlishis ......... 7:50pm
Gematria and story by Rev Amzalak.......... 8:10pm
Shiur with Rabbi Moss............................. 8:30pm
Shabbos ends and Maariv........................ 8:50pm
Followed by Havdalah 
 
WEEKDAY SERVICES
Sunday- Tuesday (Pub.hols)........ 8:00am
Wednesday-Friday..................... 7:00am
Latest Shema this week.............. 9:19am
 
Fast of Tenth of Teves | Thursday 28 December
Fast Begins: 4:08am | Fast ends 8:38pm
 
MAZAL TOV TO
Grant Smuts & Elana Castle on the birth of a baby girl in New York!
 
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO
Vera Feuermann...... 5 Tevet/Sat 23 Dec
Willow Glick............ 9 Tevet/ Wed 27 Dec
 
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO
Danielle & Gidon Weinstein.. .7 Tevet/Mon 25 Dec
Dale & Tal Levin.................. 7 Tevet/ Mon 25 Dec
Gavin & Beatrish Gordon...... 9 Tevet/ Wed 27 Dec
 
LONG LIFE TO
Linda Isdale for her late mother Joyce Vilensky
Simcha bat Aharon.... 4 Tevet / Friday 22 December
Peppi Glick for his late mother
Ettie Glick ......... 10 Tevet/ Thursday 28 December

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8:00 AM - Shacharis followed by Breakfast
9:20 AM - Learn with a Chavrusa the laws of Shabbos
 
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civilian casualties & the place for compassion in the fight against terror
- Rabbi Yaacov Chaiton

Women: An in-depth look at stories in Tanach
- Rabbi Levi Gourarie (25 to 27 December)
- Mrs Rivka Aaron (28 and 29 December)

Men & Women: Living with Kabbalah - Explore your daily routine through
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- Rabbi Michoel Gourarie

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11:00 AM - Panel Discussions & Lectures

25 December - Fix the Building without Becoming Homeless
Addressing problems in the religious world
Presenter: Rabbi Michoel Gourarie
 
26 December - "Coffee with Levi"
A sit in conversation with Rabbi Michoel & Levi Gourarie
Relax and listen while you enjoy a coffee from "Cap Away Coffee Cart."
 
27 December - Dilemmas During Wartime
Halachic Questions in the IDF
Presenter: Rav Shua Solomon
 
28 December - Jews & the ADF
Spreading the message
Presenter: Rabbi Yossi Friedman
 
29 December - The Amazing Story of the Jews of USA
Presenter: Rabbi David Freedman
 
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Cost - $12 per day or $50 for the week
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0-2 Years - Babysitting
3-6 Years - Cook craft, learn, arts and crafts, baking, games, davening, stories and more!
7 - 12 Girls - 'Create and connect' crafts, baking, scrap-booking and learning!
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