I Stole $500. What Now?

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Question of the Week: I am a little embarrassed to write this, but my conscience won't allow me to keep it in any more. When I was 16 years old (almost 30 years ago) I would babysit for a neighbour. They always underpaid me. If I worked for three and half hours, they paid me for three. If I worked for 2 hours and 59 minutes, they paid me for 2. I really resented it. One time I found $500 cash in a kitchen draw. I took it, justifying in my mind that they owed me at least that much. They never suspected anything. I'm pretty sure they never even knew the money was there in the first place. I look back with shame and know I did wrong. I stole. But this was so long ago. According to the Torah, how do I fix this? Do I have to pay back? Must I actually face them?  Answer: Most of us have embarrassing stories from our younger days. Lucky we are not all politicians, so these stories don't get dug up and become front page news.  To correct an act of stealing, you need to return the money to its rightful owner. But that is not enough. You also need to apologise. Stealing doesn't just rob someone of their money, it is an invasion of their space. Taking their property is also trampling their dignity. For this you need to ask them for forgiveness.  However, in a case where the victim is not even aware that they have been robbed, an apology is not necessary, and perhaps even not proper. If they don't know the theft ever happened, then they suffered a financial loss, but not an emotional one. You still need to return the money, but you can do that anonymously and without explanation. Asking forgiveness would itself cause them unnecessary hurt.  This is all assuming that they never knew of the theft. But what if they did eventually realise that they had been robbed? In such a case you do need to apologise. The question is, can you apologise anonymously? Ideally not. You should really own up to the act and ask for forgiveness. But the Torah wants to open the doors for those who sincerely want to right their wrongs, and make it easier and not harder. So the Torah allows you to apologise anonymously in a case where the victim didn't ever suspect you were the one who stole from them. If you send them the money with a nameless heartfelt request for forgiveness, and you ensure that they indeed receive it, then you have made amends and you can put it behind you.  This misdeed happened long ago, but you can still correct it. Whether or not you run for president, you want a clean slate.    Good Shabbos, Rabbi Moss Source: Igros Moshe Choshen Mishpat 1:88 To subscribe CLICK HERE or email rabbimoss@nefesh.com.au   A FEW SPACES LEFT - BOOK HERE NOW SHABBOS SERVICE TIMES & COMMUNITY INFO: NOACH ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Friday, 1 November 2019| 3 Cheshvan 5780 Candle Lighting.......... 7:05pm (not before 6:02pm) Mincha...................... 6:15pm Shabbos Service ....... 6:30-7:20pm Followed by Kiddush   Shabbos Day, 2 November 2019 | 4 Cheshvan 5780 Morning Meditation......................9:00am Shabbos Service ........................ 10:00am-12:20pm Kids Program ............................. 10:30am Kiddush with cholent sponsored by the Kessel's in honour of Parshas Noach!   Shabbos Shiur at Wellington St with Nechama Dina Moss.....5:00pm Parsha Shiur with Rabbi Sufrin................6:00pm Mincha followed by Seudah Shlishis ........7:00pm Gematria and Story by Rev Amzalak....... 7:30pm Shiur with Rabbi Moss........................... 7:45pm Shabbos ends...................................... 8:03pm Followed by Havdalah   WEEKDAY SERVICES Sunday..................................... 8:00am Mon- Friday............................... 7:00am Latest Shema this week............... 9:15am   MAZAL TOV Daniel Kogan & Jodie Kessler on their upcoming marriage. 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When Was Adam's Mid-Life Crisis?

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NEFESH SHABBOS MORNING SERVICE, FOR THIS WEEK ONLY  (SATURDAY 26 OCTOBER, 10AM)  AT YESHIVA 36 FLOOD ST, BONDI Question of the Week:   Can you explain why Genesis describes the lifespan of the early generations as being incredibly long? Adam is said to have died at age 930, Noah was almost 500 when he started building the ark (not bad!) and Methuselah lived a world record 969 years! So what happened? Why don't we live that long anymore?   Answer:   The longevity of our patriarchs raises several questions. What does it feel like to hit 900? When did they have their mid-life crisis? Were centenarians getting up to teenage mischief? Did parents tell their children, "Stop acting like a forty year old!"?   Whatever the case, we find that the first few generations lived extremely long, and then after Noah's flood the average lifespan reduced dramatically, with people living about as long as we do today.    The main difference between the earlier generations and the later is that in the first generations of humanity, they were all new souls. The souls of Adam and Eve, their children and grandchildren were coming into this world for the first time. Not so the following generations, who possessed souls that had been here before and were sent back in another incarnation.   Each soul comes down into this world to fulfill a set of missions, and it is given a lifespan that is long enough to complete these missions. But if for whatever reason a soul does not complete all the work it needs to in one lifetime, it is given more chances. A reincarnated soul is a spark of an earlier soul that comes back to earth in a new body to complete unfinished business from its previous life.   The earlier generations had big souls and long life spans, because they were fresh and new and had a lot of work to do. But things didn't always work out as planned, and so their souls had to come back and tidy things up. These big souls were spread out among thousands and millions of reincarnations, smaller souls with less work to do, and thus shorter life times to do it.   None of us know how much time we have, but we do know that we don't have centuries. We don't have the luxury to start building our ark when we are 500. Better start now.   Good Shabbos, Rabbi Moss Source: Ohr Hachaim, Parshas Vayechi Bereishis 47:29 To subscribe CLICK HERE or email rabbimoss@nefesh.com.au   A FEW SPACES LEFT - BOOK HERE NOW SHABBOS SERVICE TIMES & COMMUNITY INFO: BEREISHIS ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Friday, 25 October 2019| 26 Tishrei 5780 Candle Lighting.......... 6:58pm (not before 5:57pm) Mincha....................... 6:15pm Shabbos Service ........ 6:30-7:20pm Kids Program ............. 6:30pm Kiddush sponsored by Jack Reuben in honour of the yortzheit for his late Aunt, Helene Violet Bat Yaakov - Long Life.   SHABBOS MORNING SERVICE FOR THIS WEEK ONLY AT YESHIVA 36 FLOOD ST, BONDI Shabbos Day, 26 October 2019 | 27 Tishrei 5780 In depth Parsha class......... 9:00am Shabbos Service at with Bar Mitzvah of Samuel Super ...10:00am-12:20pm Kids Program .................... 10:30am Followed by Kiddush in honour of Samuel's Bar Mitzvah - Mazal Tov!   Mincha (back at Francis st) followed by Seudah Shlishis ......6:55pm Gematria and Story by Rev Amzalak......... 7:25pm Shiur with Rabbi Moss............................. 7:40pm Shabbos ends........................................ 7:56pm Followed by Havdalah   WEEKDAY SERVICES Sunday................................................. 8:00am Mon-Fri..................................................7:00am Latest Shema this week.......................... 9:19am New moon/ Molad.......... Monday 28 Oct 6:34:6PM Rosh Chodesh Cheshvan........ Tues-Wed 29-30 Oct   MAZAL TOV To Gideon and Rita Super and the entire extended families on Samuel's Bar Mitzvah!   HAPPY JEWISH BIRTHDAY Yehezkel-Yoel Ezekiel.... 28 Tishrei/ Sunday 27 Oct Asher Waine................. 29 Tishrei/ Monday 28 Oct Tom Cromer...... 2 Cheshvan/ Thursday 31 October Monique Klein ....... 3 Cheshvan/ Friday 1 November   HAPPY ANNIVERSARY Karen & Roger Berman. 28 Tishrei/ Sunday 27 Oct Pia & Jonah Ink......... 2 Cheshvan/ Thursday 31 Oct   LONG LIFE Peppi Glick for his late father Ruby Glick... 2 Cheshvan/ Thursday 31 October Les Pozniak for his late step-mother Joan Pozniak Chai Bat Leah... 2 Cheshvan/ Thursday 31 October Roy, Steven and Kim Eckowitz for their late mother Alma Eckowitz Chana bat Kalman... 2 Cheshvan/ Thursday 31 October     If you would like Nefesh to include your Birthday, Anniversary or Yortzheit in our newsletter and send you an email reminder, just fill in this quick ONLINE FORM.

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What Your Wife DIDN'T Say

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Question of the Week: My very devout wife says I shouldn't miss Simchas Torah, as it is the most important festival of the year. I countered that the Torah speaks of no such festival, so how could it be so important? She said I should ask the rabbi. So I am. Answer: There are two types of good husbands. I'm not sure which one you are. One is the type of husband that does whatever his wife asks. If she says, "Can you pick up some eggplants?" he says "Sure." If she asks for a new watch, he buys it. If she says "This house needs painting" he calls a painter. If she complains that the air-conditioning is on too strong, he turns it off. He is a good husband. But he is not an amazing husband. An amazing husband doesn't only do what his wife asks. He does things for her without her asking. He knows what makes her happy, and just goes ahead and does it. She still has to express her needs, because even an amazing husband can't read her mind. But he can intuit what she likes, and do it without being asked. The Jewish people are in a marriage-like relationship with G-d. We don't just do what we are asked, but go beyond to do things we know would make G-d happy. In Judaism there are straight out rules that G-d has asked us to keep, like eating kosher and giving charity. They are called commandments, what G-d needs from us, and we do them as any loyal partner would. And then there are customs, like wearing a kippah and dipping apples in honey. We were not commanded to do these things, but we ourselves intuited that G-d would like it, so we do it. Among the festivals, there are those that we were commanded to keep, like Yom Kippur, and then there are those that we developed on our own, like Simchas Torah. Nothing we do on Simchas Torah is commanded in the Torah. The dancing, the Torah readings, the somersaults and the songs are all an expression of our love for G-d, doing what we know would make Him happy. And nothing makes Him happier than seeing us all dancing together in joy, celebrating the gift of the Torah, the gift of being Jewish. Doing what we are told is good. Doing what makes G-d happy without being told is even deeper. That's why the most intensely loving moment between G-d and the Jewish people is Simchas Torah. I'm not sure if you are a good husband or an amazing one. But either way you need to come celebrate Simchas Torah. Because it's what G-d would like, or because your wife told you to. 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Candle Lighting................................ after 7:51pm   Simchas Torah Tuesday 22 October, 2019 Morning service................ ..................... 10:00am Big Kiddush 11am, Hakofos dancing, completing Torah and starting again, honouring the Chassanim, and some cheeky pranks at Mussaf.   Mincha.................................................. 7:00pm Yom Tov ends and Maariv........................ 7:52pm

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Post Yom Kippur Blues?

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Question of the Week:   I think I have the post Yom Kippur blues. Every year I get all inspired by the fast, and am sure that I will be more committed to Judaism in the year ahead. But somehow it dissipates pretty quick (like around the third mouthful after breaking the fast). I don't want to lose it again this year. Any suggestions?   Answer:   I know just what you need. You need to be swaddled.   A newborn baby, moments after birth, is taken by a midwife and wrapped up in a swaddling cloth. This serves to keep the newborn protected and warm. Having just emerged from the security and nurture of the womb, the baby is particularly vulnerable and sensitive. A good swaddling cloth gives him a sense of protection from the cold and harsh world out here.    But swaddling doesn't last long. You rarely see teenagers wrapped up in a cloth with their arms behind their ears. (Though perhaps some should be.) Swaddling is a brief bridging stage between the safety of the womb and the hazards of real life. A well wrapped baby will eventually grow to face life unwrapped. The swaddle cloth just helps him get there.   Your soul needs that bridge too. You have emerged from the womb of Yom Kippur a pure and renewed soul. The negative residue from your past has been cleansed. Your soul is now tender and sensitive, and easily susceptible to the coldness of spiritual apathy and other moral germs floating in the air. You need some protection. You need to be swaddled. You need a Sukkah.   The Sukkah is the only mitzvah that you do with your whole being. The holy air of the Sukkah completely envelops and surrounds you. It turns everything you do into a holy act. Just eating and drinking and chatting in the Sukkah is a mitzvah, just because it is done in the divine shade of the Sukkah. When you sit in a Sukkah, you are being swaddled by sanctity.    Going from the highs of Yom Kippur straight back into the routine of the mundane world is like taking a new born from her mother's womb straight out into the cold night. You just cant do that. Sit in the Sukkah. Bask in its sacred shade. Be enwrapped in its warm embrace.    You aren't suffering from post-Yom Kippur blues, you are just an unswaddled soul. The Sukkah can fix that.   Good Shabbos, Rabbi Moss   (Source: Likkutei Dibburim 4 p1534) To subscribe CLICK HERE or email rabbimoss@nefesh.com.au   TORAH HONOURS UP FOR GRABS These honours bring great blessings to those who purchase them and those who receive them. What a gift! 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CONDOLENCES Anita Berkovits and family on the passing of her mother Rose Fekete. Richelle Goldshaft, Peter Rosenthal and their families on the passing of Lilli Rosenthal. LONG LIFE Tauba Tanchum for her late mother Rose Kaplan Rose bat Avraham... 13 Tishrei/ Saturday 12 October Magda Schaffer for her late father Chayim Ben Avraham 13 Tishrei/ Saturday 12 October Isaac, Michelle, Michael and David Barel for their late wife and mother Wendy Barel Braha bat Shaptai HaCohen... 15 Tishrei/ Monday 14 October     If you would like Nefesh to include your Birthday, Anniversary or Yortzheit in our newsletter and send you an email reminder, just fill in this quick ONLINE FORM. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ PLEASE NOTE: First two evening services at Wellington St, Morning Services at Francis St Erev Sukkos Sunday 13 October, 2019 Light Candles............................ 6:48pm Mincha at Wellington St.............. 6:45pm Evening service at Wellington St.. 7:00pm-7:20pm First Day Sukkos at Francis St Monday 14 October, 2019 Morning service ..... 10:00am- 1:00pm Children's program..............  10:30am Kiddush in the Rooftop Sukkah sponsored by the Hedges family in honour of Rabbi Moss, Jack Reuben, Ron Moss and Nick Weininger for their incredible effort and hard work this past year on the Nefesh Board. Mincha after Kiddush   Light Candles ...............  after 7:45pm Evening service at Wellington St.......  7:45pm-8:00pm   Second Day Sukkos at Francis St Tuesday 15 October, 2019 Morning service ..... 10:00am- 1:00pm Children's program..............  10:30am Followed by Kiddush in the Sukkah (Still available to sponsor) Mincha after Kiddush Yom Tov ends ......................  7:45pm   CHOL HAMOED Wednesday, Thursday & Friday Shachris................................  9:00am

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