Thursday, December 3, 2009

When a Couple Drifts Apart....

SPECIAL EVENT - don't miss this evening of inspiration
THE HEROES OF MUMBAI - a first-hand account
with Aimee Ginsburg
THIS TUESDAY December 8, 8:15pm at Nefesh 54 Roscoe St Bondi Beach, $5 suggested donation at the door
Aimee is the India correspondent for Israel's leading daily newspaper, Yediot Achronot. She was a close personal friend to the Chabad rabbi of Mumbai, Rabbi Gavriel Holzberg and his wife Rivky, of blessed memory, both killed in last year's terror attack. Aimee was with Rivky's parents as the horror unfolded, and was the first to meet the Holzberg's son Moishe and his nanny Sandra as they miraculously escaped the siege. Aimee witnessed the power of the human soul to find strength even at times of extreme tragedy. Her story is unforgettably moving and inspiring.

Question of the Week:
At Jewish weddings I've seen this dance where people stand facing each other in two lines, and then run towards each other and meet in the middle, then run backwards to their original places, only to do it all over again. Where does this dance come from?
There is a common misconception about relationships. Many people think that if I meet the right person, things will all go smoothly from there. If a relationship is bumpy, if we need to put effort in to make it work, it must be the wrong relationship.
The wedding dance, with its forward and backward motions, is there to tell us that this view is false. In any loving relationship, a couple experiences moments of closeness and love, as well as moments of distance and tension. It is not possible for two human beings to share intimate space and not go through some rough patches. If a relationship is to be real, it probably won't be smooth.
But this tension is exactly what makes love so powerful. Every moment of tension in a loving relationship is an opportunity to get to know each other better. Why are you upset? What did I do to hurt you? Where did we misunderstand each other? What can we learn from this episode?
The only reason you retreat from each other is in order to come close again.  You take a step back so you can then rush forward. The divide that was created by your little falling out provides the fuel for you to come back together, closer and stronger than ever. 

As we dance around the newlyweds we give them a powerful message. In your lives together it will invariably happen that each of you will make mistakes. There will be times of misunderstanding and distance, when you feel you have drifted apart and the love is being strained. The secret: even in those times, never turn your back. Even when you are retreating, always face each other. If you do, the tension itself will propel you back towards each other. 
Never fear those moments of tension in your marriage. Rather see them as doorways that lead you to a deeper connection. In the dance of love, the good times bring you close, but the tough times bring you even closer.
Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss
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Chanukah Party
Menorah craft and Chanukah party

*Create and decorate your very own Menorah* Chanukah games and songs* Sufganyot/donuts and Chocolate coins*
For children ages 3-9, $5 per child
Sunday December 13, 3:00-4:30pm at Nefesh 54 Roscoe St Bondi Beach
Space is limited so please RSVP by 9 December by calling 9363 5543
Organised by Nefesh and Chabad for Israelis
For more info: Shterny 0421 484 770 or Nechama Dina 0425 309 268

Nefesh Chanukah Party  an evening of fun and celebration
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Discussion group for mothers with their babies
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