A quick question. . . my friends often tell me to smile more. But how can one always just smile and be happy if (not so) deep down one has pressing troubles, worries and problems to deal with? Must I smile when I am not in the mood?
What has smiling to do with your mood? What has the look on your face to do with the feelings in your heart?
Your face is not your business. It is public property. You only have to look at your own face once briefly in the morning. Everyone else has to look at your face all day. So just because you are in a bad mood or going through a rough patch, doesn't mean everyone else has to be brought down too. The people around you deserve to be greeted with a pleasant face.
Of course, smiling is not only for the benefit of others, but for your own benefit too. The number one cause of misery is not life's troubles but rather self-absorption. The more you think about yourself and your predicament, the more you marinate in self-pity, the more miserable you become.
On the other hand, when you look outside of yourself, look around you and see how you can be of service to others, when you smile not because you are in the mood but because others deserve to be smiled at, you start to feel upbeat and light again.
This is not to say that there are never any real reasons to be sad, or that smiling is a magical cure for depression. The point is that smiling is a duty you have to others. And when you focus on your duties rather than your difficulties, you are on the road to happiness.
Bina welcomes new lecturer to the team, Rabbi Yaacov Chaiton, with an exciting new series:
The History of Kabbalah The evolution of the study of mysticism, controversy around the Zohar, was Maimonides for or against Kabbalah? Mondays 8:15pm - 9:15pm 8 February - 15 March at 49 Bellevue Rd For Men and Women with Rabbi Yaacov Chaiton
Meaningful Motherhood Discussion group for mothers with their babies with Nechama Dina Moss and Shternie Dadon Starts Feb 1, Mondays 10am at Nefesh, 54 Roscoe St Bondi Beach
Kabbalah - The Miracle of Being Human - four features of human life that make us unique For Men and Women with Rabbi Moss Starts Tuesday Feb 2, 8:15 - 9:30pm at Nefesh, 54 Roscoe St Bondi
One-on-one Learning Study the topic of your choice, all levels, contact me to arrange a partner email@example.com Starts February, Monday and Wednesday Nights 8:30 - 9:30pm
Character Development - Family Changes - How to handle changes in family dynamics such as: in-law relationships, adult children, elderly parents, grandparents and grandchildren Thursdays 9:20am - 10:30am, 4 February - 18 March for women with Rabbi Gourarie at 45 Bellevue Rd
Lunch in the City - Jewish Views on the News - A Torah outlook on current events Thursdays 1:00pm - 2:00pm Begins 4 February For Men and Women with Rabbi Moss Arnold Bloch Leibler, Level 24, Chifley Tower, 2 Chifley Square, Sydney CBD
Mincha 6:10pm 6:30pm - 7:15pm Shabbos Service with kids program and Tu Bishvat Fruit Kiddushsponsored by
Moss family in honour of Mendel's 2nd birthday
Saturday 9am Class on Weekly Parsha 10am -12:15pm Morning Service with guest speaker Rabbi Yaacov Chaiton, followed by Tu Bishvat Fruit Kiddushin honour of Vanessa and Dvora Creighton completing the book "Positive Word Power" 6:40pm Halacha Shiur, laws of Shehecheyanu
7:40pm Mincha followed by Sholosh Seudos and Maariv
Sunday 8am Morning service followed by breakfast and Beginners Talmud Class