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Question of the Week:
My relationship is moving ahead. We certainly love each other, and we have from the start, but we do have our differences. All my friends say the main thing is that you are in love, and everything else will fall into place. But is this true?
All you need to know about relationships you can learn from making model airplanes.
A common mistake when making a model airplane is to start by putting glue all over the parts. That just creates a mess. The wrong bits get stuck together, wings get stuck to the floor, windows stuck on your fingers. It only complicates things when you introduce the glue too early.
The way to build a model airplane is to first organise the parts. Make sure the pieces fit together and nothing is missing. Then gradually apply the glue, and join the various parts, piece by piece, until it starts to take shape.
The parts may not fit perfectly at first. You may have to shave off some rough edges, or bend some parts into shape before they click. Minor imperfections can be overlooked - a dollop of glue can fix them up. With a bit of work it all comes together.
But if you find that there are parts missing, or they don't fit, then you don't have what it takes to make an airplane. You can't use glue to join mismatched pieces, and certainly not to replace missing parts. Don't even try, just look for a better model.
Your relationship is a model airplane. You and your partner are the pieces, and love is the glue that sticks you together. Without the binding power of love, two individuals could never become one. But that power, like glue, is indiscriminate. It must be applied carefully, because it could stick just about anything together; you can love someone who is simply not for you.
Before opening our hearts, we must ensure we have the right pieces to build a relationship. The building blocks of a solid relationship are shared values and common purpose. Our priorities in life, beliefs and visions for the future must fit together. We can have different opinions, different tastes and different ways of expressing ourselves; as long as we can share those differences respectfully, we can become one. But if our values are not in synch, then we simply have different futures - we are not going in the same direction.
This all may sound unromantic. The Beatles would never have made it big by singing:
"All you need is love, and shared values and commitment and a wholesome view of what a relationship really is - da dada dada."
But they should have. Model airplanes are not exactly poetic. But what's better - romantic dating that gets sticky, or a sticking together for a lifetime of romance?
The History of Kabbalah The evolution of the study of mysticism, controversy around the Zohar, was Maimonides for or against Kabbalah? Mondays 8:15pm - 9:15pm 8 February - 15 March at 49 Bellevue Rd For Men and Women with Rabbi Yaacov Chaiton
Meaningful Motherhood Discussion group for mothers with their babies with Nechama Dina Moss and Shternie Dadon Starts Feb 1, Mondays 10am at Nefesh, 54 Roscoe St Bondi Beach
Kabbalah - The Miracle of Being Human - four features of human life that make us unique For Men and Women with Rabbi Moss Tuesdays 8:15 - 9:30pm at Nefesh, 54 Roscoe St Bondi
Character Development - Family Changes - How to handle changes in family dynamics such as: in-law relationships, adult children, elderly parents, grandparents and grandchildren Thursdays 9:20am - 10:30am, 4 February - 18 March for women with Rabbi Gourarie at 45 Bellevue Rd
Lunch in the City - Jewish Views on the News - A Torah outlook on current events Thursdays 1:00pm - 2:00pm Begins 4 February For Men and Women with Rabbi Moss Arnold Bloch Leibler, Level 24, Chifley Tower, 2 Chifley Square, Sydney CBD
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Saturday 9am Class on Weekly Parsha 10am -12:15pm Morning Service with kids program followed by Kiddushin honour of Nissim Chai Nasiem in honour of the yorzheit of his mother Jullet Nasiem 6:20pm Halacha Shiur, laws of Purim
7:20pm Mincha followed by Sholosh Seudos and Maariv
Sunday 8am Morning service followed by breakfast and Beginners Talmud Class