Is It Wrong to Recycle a Gift?

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Question of the Week   Is it wrong to re-gift? My uncle came back from Hong Kong with a very expensive tie, green with red zigzags, which he gave me as a gift. I would not be caught dead wearing it. But I have a friend with the same bad taste as my uncle who would love it, and it's his birthday next week. Is there any issue with me passing it on, rather than letting it gather dust in my closet?   Answer:   You need to think this through. If you re-gift, it might be considered stealing.   A gift is given to be yours. That means you can do with it whatever you wish. If you want to use the tie as a dish rag, sell it on eBay or make it your dog's scarf, no one can stop you.   But a gift is not just a gift, it is a sentiment, a thought, a feeling. Your uncle may have personally picked this tie out for you, thinking you would appreciate it. If he then sees it on your dog or on your friend or on eBay, he may be hurt. It is not the tie you have rejected, it is his thoughtfulness.   Then again, maybe he wouldn't care, or would never find out. Even so, there is an additional concern when you pass on a gift to a friend. You are fooling your friend. When he receives this expensive tie from you, he will feel indebted to you for your generosity. He will feel he must reciprocate when it is your birthday and buy you something of real value. And unless he has an uncle that shares your fine taste, that may cost him.   By re-gifting the tie to your friend, you are scoring unfair points. He thinks you are being gracious by giving him such a valuable gift, when in actual fact you are dumping on him your unwanted merchandise. The Talmud calls this stealing someone's goodwill.   So before re-gifting, ask the following questions: Will anyone be hurt by my actions? Was this gift bought with me in mind, or could it have gone to anyone? Will anyone be misled? You may have good taste in ties, but you don't want to leave a bad taste in anyone's mouth.   Good Shabbos, Rabbi Moss To subscribe CLICK HERE or email rabbimoss@nefesh.com.au Yizkor or Yom Tov Aliyah donations click here SERVICES TIMES AND COMMUNITY INFO ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Friday, 13 May, 2016 | 5 Iyar 5776 Candle Lighting.............................................. 4:46 pm   Mincha............................................................. 4:55 pm Friday Evening Service......................... 6:00-6:50 pm Kids program................................................... 6:15 pm Followed by Kiddush sponsored by Alethea Gold in honour of the yorzheit her mother, Naomi Frere, Nechama bas Ester on 8 Iyar - Long Life. Shabbos, 14 May, 2016 | 6 Iyar 5776 Chassidus Class................................................ 9:00 am Shabbos Morning Service........ 10:00 am-12:15 pm Children's program....................................... 11:00am Followed by Kiddush sponsored anonymously in honour of those who are praying to be blessed with children.   Mincha.....................................................4:40 pm Pirkei Avos .............................................Chapter 2 Seudah Shlishis Gematria and Story by Rev Amzalak............ 5:00 pm Shiur:........................................................5:20 pm Shabbos ends and Maariv............................. 5:42 pm Followed by Havdalah.   WEEKDAY SHACHARIS SERVICES Sunday ...........................................................8:00 am Mon- Fri...........................................................7:00 am Latest Shema this week..................................... 9:12 am   WEEKDAY CLASSES Chassidus..................................Monday 8:00-8:45am Tanya Meditations...................... Monday 8:15-9:15pm Pregnancy Course (bookings).... Tuesdays 7:30-9:15pm   MAZEL TOV TO Dylan and Gaby Shatter, the Franks and Shatter families on the birth of a boy Brent and Simona Maksimovich on the upsherin of their son Nick HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO Benjamin Hoch......................................... 5 Iyar/ 13 May Sheryl Deubler.......................................... 6 Iyar/ 14 May   LONG LIFE TO Larnce Gold for his late grandmother, Naomi Frere Nechama bas Ester 8 Iyar/ 16 May Marlene Franks for her late father, Aaron Jacob Wolman Aharon Yaakov 10 Iyar/ 18 May David Bermeister for his late father, Yitzchak Ben Zeev 11 Iyar/ 19 May

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