Thursday, June 22, 2017

Why Can't They Die With Dignity?


Question of the Week:
I visit my 92 year old mother every day in her old age home, and every day I look around at the seniors there and ask myself the same question, why does G-d leave these old people to die without dignity? Every one of them needs either a diaper change, someone to feed them, wash them, or do everything for them. I have faith, but this thing really makes me angry. Why can't they die with dignity?
It is so hard to see a loved one fade after living a vibrant and active life. How we approach this painful stage will depend on our perspective. And the Jewish perspective on the end of life differs greatly to modern secular thinking. To approach life and death with faith, we need to make sure we have that perspective very clear.
It often happens that foreign, secular ideas creep into the minds of even those who have faith. Usually, the way these concepts infiltrate is via catch phrases and clich├ęs. First they enter our vocabulary, then they become a part of our mentality. 
One example is "dying with dignity."
That phrase is poison. It originates in the movement promoting euthanasia. This is a phrase that deserves to die. 
True dignity comes from the soul, from living a life of goodness and holiness and meaning. Our body is a vehicle for that mission to be achieved. But the body is not our real self, and not our source of dignity.
At the end of a good and purposeful life, the body may be frail and weak, but the soul is as bright as ever, having accomplished its mission. If people have to do some unpleasant jobs to bring comfort to that body in its final years, it should be seen as an honour. There is no greater dignity than to serve another.
I am not belittling the pain of seeing a loved one suffer. And I am not saying that the body's deterioration is easy to face. I am saying that a person's dignity comes from their soul and their moral achievements. That is living with dignity. 
We end our life in the same way we started it, dependent on the love of others. Your mother is blessed to spend her final days in good care, surrounded by those who love her. That is a most dignified departure from this world to the next.

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss 

To subscribe CLICK HERE or email 

Were the Spies Righteous or Wicked?  The Chasam Sofer, the Arizal, the Zohar, the Shem Mishmuel and the Rebbe find the positive side to the story

Friday, 23 June, 2017 | 29 Sivan 5777
Candle Lighting............... 4:36pm 
Mincha........................... 4:45pm
Friday Evening Service..... 6:00pm
Followed by Kiddush.
Shabbos, 24 June, 2017 | 30 Sivan 5777
In depth Parsha Class........ 9:00am
Children's program........... 10:45am
Shabbos Morning Service..  10:00am- 12:20pm 
Followed by Kiddush.
Mincha with Pirkei Ovos Ch 4
followed by Seudah Shlishis ............   4:30pm
Gematria and story by Rev Amzalak..... 4:55pm
Shabbos ends and Maariv.................. 5:35pm
Followed by Havdalah
Sunday ......................... 8:00am
Mon - Fri........................ 7:00am
Latest Shema this week.... 9:26am
Saturday 24 June 9:16:13am
Gemma Lessem.......... 30 Sivan/ Saturday 24 June
Nechama Dina Moss...... 6 Tammuz/ Friday 30 June
Eric Borecki for his late father Osher Borecki
Asher ben Yoseph..............29 Sivan/ Friday 23 June
Jodi Lowe for her late grandmother Violet Irene Collins,
Tsipora bat Moshe........ 2 Tammuz/ Monday 26 July
Stephen Etkind for his late father
David Julius Etkind........ 2 Tammuz/ Monday 26 July

Nefesh Shul, 54 Roscoe Street, Bondi Beach, NSW 2026 Australia
Sent by in collaboration with
Constant Contact

No comments:

Post a Comment