Thursday, July 7, 2016

The Rebbe's Riddle



Question of the Week
  
I see a lot of contradictions in the way the Rebbe is portrayed. He is sometimes described as the founder of Jewish outreach, focusing his energies on bringing lost and ignorant Jews back to the fold. But then when you analyze his writings and teachings, they are not aimed at the novice, but are of the highest level of scholarship, challenging the most advanced student of Torah. He is said to have been accepting of every person, no matter their religious level, and yet was uncompromising in his strict observance of Jewish law, and demanded the same of his followers. I have studied many of the world's great leaders and cannot think of another example of one who held these paradoxical characteristics in such abundance - open-mindedness together with unquestioning faith; being able to equally relate to the common man and to the intellectual elite. How did the Rebbe manage to encompass such extreme opposites and appeal to such polar constituencies?
 
Answer:
 
The Rebbe was a man of G-d. He did not seek to connect people to himself, he sought to connect people with the divine part of themselves, their soul, and with the divine force in the world, G-d.
 
There is not much we know about G-d. But one thing we know is that G-d is infinite. There is not much we can say about infinity, but one interesting aspect is that infinity has two sides to it - it is both infinitely high and infinitely low. In mathematics, there is no number that is too low to be included in infinity, and there is no number too high to be beyond infinity. So too with G-d's infinite light. In the words of the Zohar, G-d's light shines upwards to endless heights and downwards to unlimited depths.
 
What this means practically is that there is no person too far away, too disconnected, too lowly to be able to find G-d. And at the same time, there is no person so close, so high and so accomplished that their quest is over and they have reached infinity. G-d is infinite enough to be accessible to the person who has descended to the lowest depths, and unreachable by the person who has ascended to the highest heights.
 
With this we can understand some of the paradox of the Rebbe's approach. There is one singular unified theme that permeated all of his work, and that is connecting the finite world to its infinite source. But that one theme expresses itself in two differing ways.
 
If you feel unworthy, if you think your life doesn't matter, if you think you have nothing to contribute, the Rebbe tells you that you have infinite worth, that even one good deed you do can change the world, and no matter how far you have strayed, you can't stray beyond G-d's infinite embrace.
 
And if you feel content, satisfied, complacent in your current spiritual state and comfortable with your own achievements, the Rebbe tells you that you have much more work to do, that no matter how high you have reached there is infinity more to achieve.
 
To the ignorant Jew the Rebbe said that even the little you know you should teach. To the learned Jew the Rebbe said you still know nothing and have so much more to learn.
 
To the unobservant Jew the Rebbe said that you are full of mitzvos, even if you don't know it. To the devout Jew the Rebbe said take your mitzvah observance is hollow until you deepen your understanding of the secrets of Torah.
 
To the poor Jew the Rebbe said that one dollar is also charity. To the wealthy Jew the Rebbe said that a million dollars is not enough.
 
The truth is, we are all rich in some areas and poor in others, we are all a bit ignorant and a bit learned, sometimes devout and sometimes unobservant. The Rebbe's infinite call is not to belittle even our small achievements, and not to be satisfied even with big ones. We all need to hear that.

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

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Friday, 8 July 2016 | 2 Tammuz 5776
Candle Lighting.............................................. 4:43 pm  
Mincha............................................................4:50 pm
Shiur on Parsha....................................5:15pm-5:45pm
Friday Evening Service......................... 6:00-6:50 pm
Kids program................................................... 6:00 pm
 
Shabbos, 9 July, 2016 |3 Tammuz 5776
Chassidus Class.............................................9:00 am
Shabbos Morning Service................ 10:00 am-12:15 pm
Children's program....................................... 11:00am
Followed by Kiddush sponsored anonymously.
 
Mincha....................................................... 4:35 pm
Pirkei Avos .................................................Chapter 4
Seudah Shlishis
Gematria and Story by Rev Amzalak............ 4:55 pm
Shiur:........................................................5:15 pm
Shabbos ends and Maariv............................. 5:41 pm
Followed by Havdalah.
 
WEEKDAY SHACHARIS SERVICES
Sunday ............................................................. 8:00 am
Mon- Fri.............................................................. 7:00 am
Latest Shema this week..................................... 9:28 am
 
WEEKDAY CLASSES
Chassidus..................................... Monday 8:00-8:45am
 
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO
Nechama Dina Moss......................... 6 Tammuz/ 12 July
 
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO
Gail & Danny Stein............................ 8 Tammuz/ 14 July

SINCERE CONDOLENCES TO
Jerome and David Stern and their families on the passing of their mother Gerda Stern a"h
 
LONG LIFE TO
Stephen Etkind for his late father
David Julius Etkind............................... 2 Tammuz/ 8 July
Tom Moss, Ron Moss and Kathy Penn for their late mother Magda Moss ...........................................................................9 Tammuz/ 15 July

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Thursday, June 30, 2016

Should I Date an Alcoholic?



Question of the Week  
  
Some years ago, I met a guy and we became friends. This guy used to be an alcoholic. When I met him, he explained to me how he had been to Alcoholics Anonymous and was already sober for a couple of years. We then went our separate ways, keeping in touch here and there. A few weeks ago he messaged me, and enquired whether I was willing to give him a shot and date him. After much discussion, I told him I have to think about it and that recovered addicts is something I need to understand more. I thoroughly enjoy his company and think the package deal is amazing: he makes me laugh, he is smart, witty, committed to Judaism, kind, compassionate, thoughtful and knows what he wants for his future home and life. To be honest, I would have never known he was an addict had he not told me so. But I have a history of addiction in my own family, and always dreamed of moving away from that in my future family. So my question is, should I completely steer away from this, or should I give him a chance? Can I trust his recovery, or is once an addict always an addict? Would you recommend dating him, or should I just move on?
 
Answer:
 
Let me first commend your level-headedness, a quality that is exceedingly rare when it comes to relationships. You obviously have your head screwed on right and you are walking into this with your eyes wide open. So often people enter or avoid relationships without any clear thinking, just following their heart. That usually leads to messy situations. Your thought out approach will serve you well.
 
As Jews we believe in the power of Teshuvah - that people can really change. And those who do change, who pick themselves up and turn their lives around for the better, are among the most inspiring people in the world. While there are no guarantees of what the future holds, if someone is sincerely doing the internal work and getting the appropriate help, they truly can turn a new page in life and never look back.
 
From the sound of things, your friend has done some hard work and his addiction is under control at the moment. But you need to know more details about that. Is he still regularly attending AA or some other support group? Is he committed to an ongoing recovery program? Recovering addicts need that for life, whether daily or weekly or monthly. If he is getting appropriate support then he has every chance of staying sober. If not, then anything can happen.
 
Once you get a clearer picture of his recovery, and before you get emotionally involved, you need to think long and hard - are you up for this? Can you handle having alcoholism, even in its recovery, a part of your life after what you have seen in your own family? Every person has their story. Is this a story you can take on and make your own?
 
If the answer is no, you can't handle it, then that is fine. No need to feel guilty. It is a lot to carry, and maybe you have carried enough in your life. The last thing you want to do is replicate the dysfunction you have witnessed in your own family. You can't become his nurse or his therapist.
 
But if after hearing the facts and thinking it over you feel confident that he really has turned himself around and you can accept him for who he is, then give it a go. You may be lucky to have found one of those beautiful souls who has seen the darkness and conquered it. Take your time, get to know him well, and see where G-d leads you. May it be on the correct path.

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

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Friday, 1 July 2016 | 18 Sivan 5776
Candle Lighting...................................4:39 pm  
Mincha...............................................4:50 pm
Shiur on weekly Parsha.........................5:15pm
Friday Evening Service......................... 6:00-6:50 pm
Kids program.......................................6:00 pm
Followed by Kiddush sponsored by Larnce Gold in honour of the yortzheit of his grandfather David Goldbaum (David ben Baruch)- Long Life.

Shabbos, 2 July, 2016 | 26 Sivan 5776
Chassidus Class......................9:00 am
Shabbos Morning Service........ 10:00 am-12:15 pm
Children's program..................11:00am
Followed by Community Lunch sponsored by Henich and Esther Hirschowitz in honour of Chaim Ber's bar mitzvah anniversary and Rivka's birthday; and by Kevin Levine in honour of his bar mitzvah anniversary- Mazal Tov!
 
Mincha.................................................  4:35 pm
Pirkei Avos ...........................................Chapter 3
Seudah Shlishis
Gematria and Story by Rev Amzalak...........4:55 pm
Shiur:.....................................................5:15 pm
Shabbos ends and Maariv..........................5:38 pm
Followed by Havdalah.
 
WEEKDAY SHACHARIS SERVICES
Sunday ................................................................ 8:00 am
Mon- Fri.............................................................. 7:00 am
Latest Shema this week..................................... 9:27 am
 
NEW MOON/ MOLAD | TUESDAY 5 JULY 12:28:1am
ROSH CHODESH TAMMUZ | WED/THURS 6/7 JULY
 
WEEKDAY CLASSES
Chassidus..................................... Monday 8:00-8:45am
 
MAZAL TOV TO
Justin and Nicola Rosenberg on the birth of a baby boy!
Josh and Natalie Persky on the birth of a baby boy!
Ben Schwartz and Mel Clements on their wedding this weekend!
 
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO
Justin Rosenberg..................................... 26 Sivan/ 2 July
Amber Radus.......................................... 28 Sivan/ 4 July
 
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO
John & Linda Isdale................................. 27 Sivan/ 3 July
Wendy & Barry Steinberg....................... 27 Sivan/ 3 July

LONG LIFE TO
Anne Sarzin for her late mother Bertha Elizabeth Levy,
Elisheva bat Avraham, (aka Betty)............................................ 25 Sivan/ 1 July
Jackie Regos for her late father Paul Vertes,
Henanya Meyer ben Shmuel Yehuda......................................... 25 Sivan/ 1 July
Adam Pisk for his late grandfather Alan Kaufman Milston,
Avraham ben Yaacov.................................................................. 28 Sivan/ 4 July
Eric Borecki for his late father Osher Borecki,
Asher ben Yoseph............................................... 29 Sivan Tuesday 5 July, 2016


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Thursday, June 23, 2016

Why Can't Yucky People Just Disappear?


Question of the Week  
  
(from Zac, aged 4)
 
Why doesn't G-d make a flood to take away all the yucky people like He did for Noah?
 
Answer:
 
Zac, I know you are a very good boy. But have you ever been naughty? Did you ever hurt your little brother, or say something rude to your mummy?
 
G-d wants us to be good all the time. But we don't always get it right.  Even good boys like you can sometimes do the wrong thing.
 
It is a pity that we are naughty sometimes, but the most important thing is that we stop being naughty and say sorry. Then it's ok again, and we can start being good and doing what's right.
 
If a flood would come every time someone did something bad, then no one would get the chance to say sorry and change. So G-d has patience. He is waiting for the yucky people to realise that they are wrong and to start behaving.
 
In the times of Noah, G-d waited 120 years before He brought the flood. Only because no one changed their bad ways in all that time did the flood happen. They even watched Noah building the ark, and he told them the flood was coming, but they still didn't start behaving themselves. From that story we learn how silly it is to keep on being yucky.
 
Even if you have been naughty, you can change and say sorry and be good from now on. G-d always gives you a chance, because even when you do something bad, He knows how good you can be.

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss
Zac wrote this question to me 9 years ago. He celebrates his Bar Mitzvah this Shabbos - Mazel tov!

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Friday, 24 June 2016 | 18 Sivan 5776
Candle Lighting.............................................. 4:37 pm  
Mincha............................................................. 4:45 pm
Friday Evening Service......................... 6:00-6:50 pm
Followed by Kiddush sponsored by Jon Shapira and Gilda Cohen-Shapira in honour of the memory of Gilda's brother, Eddie Cohen z"l - Tuvia Ben Moshe Hakohen (8 Sivan), Jon's aunt, Valerie Bennett z"l - Ariella bat Eliazer (19 Sivan), and father, Miron Shapira z"l - Meir Ben Yosef (24 Sivan)- Long Life.

Shabbos, 25 June, 2016 | 19 Sivan 5776
Chassidus Class................................................ 9:00 am
Shabbos Morning Service........ 10:00 am-12:15 pm
Kids Kiddush and program sponsored by Vitali Broyda in honour of the yortzheit of his grandfather, Pinchus Ben Lipa- Long Life. ............. 11:00am

Followed by kiddush sponsored by Rick Lawton & Edith Laurence to celebrate the birth of their son Zachary Oliver (Uriel Ya'akov) and in honour of their first wedding anniversary- Mazal Tov!
 
Mincha.........................................................4:30 pm
with the Bar Mitzvah of Zac Gothelf
Pirkei Avos ................................................Chapter 2
Lechaim for Zac's bar mitzvah........................4:55pm
Shabbos ends and Maariv............................. 5:36 pm
Followed by Havdalah.

MAZAL TOV TO
Todd and Suzy Gothelf, Jesse Gothelf, grandparents Tom Moss, Nina Moss and Rona Gothelf, and the Moss and Gothelf families on Zac's Bar Mitzvah! 

WEEKDAY SHACHARIS SERVICES
Sunday ................................................................ 8:00 am
Mon- Fri.............................................................. 7:00 am
Latest Shema this week..................................... 9:27 am
 
WEEKDAY CLASSES
Chassidus..................................... Monday 8:00-8:45am
Tanya Meditations...................... Monday 8:15-9:15pm

 
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO
Janine Diamond .................................. 20 Sivan/ 26 June
Michelle Streimer................................ 21 Sivan/ 27 June
 
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO
Nick & Carmelle Hedges..................... 19 Sivan/ 25 June

LONG LIFE TO
Ron Perger for his late mother Elly Perger....................... 19 Sivan/ 25 June
Eric Melman for his late mother Nellie Melman................ 19 Sivan/ 25 June
Larnce Gold for his late grandfather David Goldbaum....... 22 Sivan/ 28 June
Robyn Tsipris for her late mother Anne Brandon.............. 23 Sivan/ 29 June
Jonathan Shapira for his late father Miron Shapira............24 Sivan/ 30 June

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