Rabbi Moss: My Wedding Plans Out the Window!?

Question of the Week:

We were so excited about our wedding. We had picked a date that seemed perfect, but before we could plan any further this pandemic hit. Now we have a tough choice: to hold a small gathering of just very close family sooner, or postpone for who knows when and have the whole celebration. To me both seem like second best. How can I look at this positively when I won't have the wedding I planned, on the date I chose and with the guests I wanted?

Answer:

I have news for you. You never chose the date of your wedding. Nobody does.

A wedding is too holy for mere mortals to plan. It is decreed in heaven whom you marry. It is also decreed in heaven when your wedding will take place, and who will be there.

We may think we picked a date because it has some sentimental significance, or because the hall was available that day. No. It was the day you had to get married. That's why the hall became available, or why that day took on meaning. It was your day all along, picked for you by G-d Himself.

Each day has its own personality, its unique energy and its particular blessings. There is one day that is for you. You will always be led to choose it as your wedding day, because it is. Sometimes it takes a pandemic to move your wedding to the date it was meant to be.

And the guest list is also divinely ordained. Every person at your chuppah adds their soul energy, their particular aura and presence to the occasion. And only those who should be there will be there. We can never know why some people make it and some don't. The right balance is created by having the perfect combination of souls for your chuppah. Sometimes that's a smaller crowd, sometimes bigger. But always right.

Getting married means believing that you have met the one that G-d made for you. It also means believing that the date and the guest list are exactly right for you too. Whether you do it smaller sooner, or bigger later, it will be perfect. Mazel tov!

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

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SHABBOS SONGS AUDIO

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In these crazy times, you have to recreate the holy energy of shul in your home. To help you learn songs, here are recordings of the Friday night tunes we sing at Nefesh, created by the super-talented Zalmy Okunov. Download and listen to them during the week, so when it comes to Shabbos, you can be the chazan! Note: they are not to be played on Shabbos itself - nothing can replace your own voice on Shabbos!

CLICK HERE OR ON THE IMAGE BELOW. ENJOY!

SHABBOS SERVICES & COMMUNITY INFORMATION: TAZRIA/METZORA

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Nefesh will not be holding any services until further notice.

Please find instructions for praying at home. Page numbers are from the blue Chabad Siddur. This Shabbos is also Rosh Chodesh, so there are some additions and variations from a usual Shabbos.

SHABBOS SERVICES:

Friday 24 April - 30 Nissan

Light Candles............5:04pm

Before 5:22pm:........ Mincha p101, Add Yaaleh Veyavo for Rosh Chodesh in Amida

After 5:48pm........... Shabbos evening service p154, Add Yaaleh Veyavo for Rosh Chodesh in Amida

Count Omer............. Day 16 p136

Kiddush................... p179

Saturday 25 April - 1 Iyar - Shabbos Day

Rosh Chodesh Iyar - Parshas Tazria/Metzora

Morning Service for Shabbos:

p5-25, p181-217, Add Yaaleh Veyavo for Rosh Chodesh in Amida

Half Hallel p307, Song of the Day and Borchi Nafshi p218-220

Torah reading Tazria & Metzora, Rosh Chodesh Mussaf p320-326, End p242-247

Kiddush p248

Virtual Lechaim 1:30pm - raise a glass and have us all in mind!

Before 5:22pm ......... Mincha p253 Add Yaaleh Veyavo for Rosh Chodesh in Amida

Pirkei Avos ............... Chapter 2 p273

After 5:48pm ............ Maariv p161

Count Omer .............. Day 17 p136

Shabbos Ends............ 5:58pm

Havdala p297

Latest Shema this week.............................. 9:06am

MAZAL TOV

Reverend & Mrs Amzalak on the birth of their great-grandson in Israel! Mazal Tov to parents Mendel & Chanie Moskovitz.

Michael and Linda Lenn on the birth of a baby girl.

Dan and Tegan Barnett on the birth of a baby girl.

Robert and Mandy Geller on the birth of a baby boy.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Benjamin Hoch............ 5 Iyar/ Wednesday 29 April

Sheryl Deubler............ 6 Iyar/ Thursday 30 April

LONG LIFE

Jack Reuben for his late father Joseph Reuben

Yosef Ben Reuven............. 4 Iyar/ Tuesday 28 April

Danny Meguideche for his late mother

Sarah Meguideche............ 4 Iyar/ Tuesday 28 April

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